Virtual Support: A Lifeline for Military Spouses

Yesterday, I read this comment from Rachel. By the way, thanks to all of you who have welcomed her. Rachel’s comment made me think that we should probably do another Meet and Greet. It’s been a while since the first one. So, without giving specific, identifiable information, let us know where you are. 

As we’ve discovered since SpouseBUZZ opened, virtual support can make a huge difference in the lives of military spouses. Each day, I wake up, go to my laptop and I’m instantly connected with all of you. I start my day with you and end my day with you (sometimes to the chagrin of my husband who has to pry my fingers from the keyboard and drag me off to bed). 

I’ve said it before, and I’ll say it again – the more options we have as a community, the better off all of us are. Well…guess what? One more option is now available to you…and it’s a doozie. has just launched its brand new Military Spouse Network, a network which offers a great social networking platform. Think MySpace, but for military spouses (or members of Imagine this, you are moving to a new duty station, say, Ft. Bragg, and you have a million questions. What are the schools like?  Where can I find an awesome Mexican restaurant?  How’s the housing? Well, you could spend hours trying to research all of the questions you have, or you could just log onto the new network and find the Ft. Bragg spouse group. Then, you could ask questions of the spouses who are there, know the area, and could provide answers and advice in about two minutes. Pretty cool, huh?

Notice the Spouse of the Day section. I love this concept. The Spouse of the Day will be randomly selected, and profiled. Check in daily to see if you have been selected. The first 100 spouses who are profiled will receive a nice gift, so if you haven’t joined and built your profile, get busy (it’s free).

We’ve been hosting a blogging series here at SpouseBUZZ over the past couple of weeks, but only a small portion of our readers are bloggers. For that reason, I created a bloggers group on the new Military Spouse Network. It’s a place where milspouse bloggers can share blogging tips, get to know other bloggers, discuss interesting posts they’ve read, showcase their work and bond over blogging. The name of the group is Blogger’s Row. If you’re a blogger, click here to join the group. I think you have to be logged into your account before you can view and join the group. If you’re not a member, click here to join. The membership is free and the information, resources and benefits your membership affords are invaluable. Note: I’m still building the page, so it’s a bit raw at the moment.

Bookmark the MSN landing page and go there each morning to see the latest headlines or information which may be of interest to you. From there, you can search for a group. Don’t see one for your duty station? Create one. The network just launched yesterday, but I’m sure it won’t take long to form spouse clubs from all over the world, and when that happens, each of us will have a place to go and find information about where the military will be sending us next.

About the Author


Andi is married to an active-duty soldier and is the founder and former editor of SpouseBUZZ.

She is the founder of the Annual MilBlog Conference. The MilBlog Conference is the premiere event of the year for military bloggers. President George W. Bush, U.S. Representative Adam Smith, GEN David Petraeus, LTG Mike Oates, LTG William Caldwell, RADM Mark Fox, MG Kevin Bergner, MG David Hogg and The Honorable Pete Geren have addressed previous conferences.

While living in Washington, DC, Andi was the Ambassador to Walter Reed Army Medical Center for Sew Much Comfort, a non-profit organization which makes and delivers, free of charge, special adaptive clothing for wounded service members. Andi has worked with several non-profits to help our wounded heroes and their families. She finds that work to be the most rewarding and meaningful of all.

Andi strives to find humor in the good, bad and ugly of life and is a firm believer that laughter has the ability to cure most ills.

  • I’m in Tampa, Fla. I write under my real name and talk in pretty specific detail about my life for the St. Pete Times newspaper and website ( Anybody in this area can call me at work, or drop me an e-mail at

  • I’m prior Navy and my hubby is still is, we’re stationed in Maryland. The best way to reach me is probably through my blog, which I try to make as accessible as possible…

  • Heather S.

    My husband was active duty army (in special operations for 4 years). He got out of the army and a year later was re-called. He was re-classed to civil affairs and is 7 months into his deployment in Iraq.
    We were in the process of moving from St. Louis to D.C. when hubby was re-called–so I ended up homeless. I floated around a bit and then landed in Montana (near Billings) with my parents and siblings for the duration of the deployment. If anyone is anywhere near the area…email me! I’d love to meet some milspouses in my area–so far, no dice!
    Incidentally (actually, most importantly), I am leaving in 5 days to meet up with hubby in Europe during his R&R! I’m very excited!
    I don’t currently blog…but am getting more and more interested as everyone here talks about it…
    And, I’ll be at SpouseBuzz live in December! Hooray!

  • My husband is active duty Army and we are living in NC. I will also be at Spouse Buzz live in December. (you might notice me as the 35 weeks pregnant woman trying to waddle around, haha)
    I have a son and a daughter on the way and we also have two dogs and a cat. I stay at home most of the time so the internet is my lifeline!
    I blog at Hurry Up and Wait under my real name.

  • Cindy

    I am retired from the Air National Guard. When I was active duty, I was also a milspouse. I live near Tampa FL raising my two daughters who keep me very busy.

  • wifeunit

    My husband is an IA sailor in iraq, we are currently stationed in the dc metro area. I have an almost 5 year old stepdaughter and am expecting our first child in March.
    I started a family/friends group blog for when my husband is deployed and I am amazed/delighted at how well it has turned out. (And with my new site stalker things I can spy on who is and is not visiting the site . . . which I find cool and slightly devilish at the same time) I just started a personal blog, even though I was doing a mostly private lj for a while.
    This place has been a great part of every one of my days while my husband has been gone and I am looking forward to SBL.
    If anyone (all branches) has a spouse who is deployed and feels they are within driving distance of annapolis AND would like to see if there are any ‘tickets’ (free) for a special event at the homecoming football game 20oct07, please let me know and I can forward the contact info.
    They did this last month very short notice and I was one of 4 wives/fiances that came and it was AMAZING. You are a VIP guest and meet many military and governmental VIPs, who give you a standing ovation for your service to this country. As did the entire stadium while we were on the jumbotron. This was a seriously moving experience, so please pass the word and hopefully any spouses of deployed that would make the trip are able to get on the list.

  • MO

    I’m here in the “Hood” down in Texas. My honey is active duty Army, has been for nearly eleven years. We started out in CA, went to VA, CA (Fort Irwin), AK and now TX. We have three daughters, a sheltie and a rat :P.
    I’m a SAHM to the dog, I sew, scrapbook, webdesign, webgraphics, read, write, and I learned me numbers I did :P I don’t have too many “friends” here, my support is also online, like a lot of the ladies/guys here. I have been MO since the 8th Grade and it just kinda stuck. You’ll see I fit MO into every screen name I can… lol.

  • I’ve been married to the Corps, oops, I mean, my Marine for over 9 years. I started our blog while we were overseas as a way to keep friends and family up to date on our family without sending out mass (and massive) emails to everyone. We’ve landed in NC for now.

  • MrsD

    I don’t post often, but I’m in Missouri and married to a National Guardsman. Despite living near a military base, I don’t know much of anyone, much less anyone who understands what it’s like to be a NG wife, and am a SAHM to 2 spoiled rotten furkids.

  • Penny

    I’m Penny ^_~
    I’m a new mom and Dh (active Army) is currently overseas. We’re stationed at Hood but I came to stay with my family in New Orleans during this deployment but I will (hopefully) be heading back in about a month and a half.. I say hopefully b’c it all depends on housing :p I’m sort of new to the military, Dh and I were married in a tiny ceremony summer of 06 and he just informed me this week that our big wedding, which we had planned for summer of ’09 or ’10 will be.. this coming summer! So, within the past two days my life just got a whole lot busier hehe..
    Thanks to the “Blog Roll” section here at SpouseBuzz I’ve also been working with Soldier’s Angels for the past 3 months and am really loving and enjoying it.
    I never really pictured my life like this but it’s true what they say, I couldn’t imagine it any other way.
    I think SpouseBuzz is absolutely wonderful! I had such a great time at the conference and I wish I could attend this upcoming one. Thanks Andi! I’m still trying to tweak the MySpace page between everything and I’m hoping it’ll end up nice :) I don’t blog but I do reply a lot (or as much as I can!) ^_~

  • dizzylizzie

    *GRIN* um…yeah…so my name is dizzielizzie, thats what everyone calls me…and i’m a spousebuzz addict….
    ive been hangin around since the site launched just over a year ago. not a frequent poster but i do fly-by lurking daily :D
    DH is active duty army with 12 yrs in service. stationed (for now) at fort useless, virginny. he’s been on his thrid tour in iraq for 404 days (51 to go! w00t!)
    we got two rugrats, ages 8 yrs (Big-Boy) & 17 months (Baby-Girl). We are currently in the midst of our homecoming preparations.
    so, here’s a welcome to all! Warning: Heed all Coffee Spewing Alerts. unless you like the buget busting purchasing of new keyboards and monitors on a weekly basis.

  • Coastiewife_RN

    *stands up, and solemnly states:*
    My name is Crystal, and I have a problem. I’m addicted to Spousebuzz. hehe
    I have been hanging around these boards for about 6 months… and finally got the nerve to post a couple days ago.
    My husband just joined the CG, and is currently in bootcamp. (I sent him out three days ago). He’s the most beautiful, wonderful man that I have ever met in my life. He’s my heartbeat. So, this is a tough concept to comprehend – not sleeping together at night. But, I have felt so much support here, even though no one knew my story.
    I’m currently in metro Detroit, planning our move to A-school in Petaluma in the beginning of December.
    Last but not least, ANDI!!!! Pretty please invite me to the chatroom. :D

  • Crystal – what a touching comment. Welcome to the sisterhood, and thanks for “coming out.”
    Invite is on its way….
    Check junk/spam folder if you don’t see it in your inbox.

  • Healthymom

    Hi All!! I confess…I’ve been lurking on this board for months looking for support, but this is my 1st post. I’m a SAHM at Quantico. I’ve been married to my DH for 4 years and we have a beautiful 2 year old. We’re trying for number 2. No luck soo far, but the practice is nice!!! :)
    After being a SAHM for the last year, I just started a part-time job as a personal trainer and group fitness instructor. I’m having soo much fun at it…and have finally found my passion.
    Thank you to all the wonderful spouses here who post their thoughts and offer their advice/opinions and support. You’ve been such a help, you have no idea!

  • Hello! I am relatively new to the Spousebuzz community. I got hooked during Army Wives. :)
    My hubby is AD Navy. We are currently in WA. It just kind of struck me funny that we say “currently” or “right now”. LOL Anyway, we don’t have many years of Active duty left. Kind of starting to stress about retirement.
    Oh, and me. I stay at home and homeschool my 3 (ages 13, 10, and 6)kiddos. It works well with all the moves. I also like to read and play the piano. I am trying to blog, but I am not sure if I am going to continue. So, that is me.

  • NavyChiefSqueeze

    I am in wife to an AD sailor, who is currently deployed. I came to SpouseBuzz seeking support, and I love reading all the great stories.
    I live in San Antonio–and I work in fundraising for a university. I volunteer for my sorority. And I basically stay as busy as I can while he is gone. :)

  • Nikki

    I’m Nikki. The Hubs is AD Navy and we’re finally back home in WA after being gone a few years (and missing way too much stuff in the process).
    I’m a board lurker too, generally raising my head only to ask a question here or there or offer in my two-cents worth on a topic. Mostly though, I just like to read and know it’s not just me out there. It’s really nice and comforting to know that there are people there to help out whenever the need arises.

  • Niki

    Hi My name is Niki, I am a army spouse my husband in deployed to Kuwait for the next 24 months, we live in So Cal. Not near any base. This site seems like it would be a good support tool. Us spouses with deployed husbands need it.

  • Erin

    I guess I’m a little late at this but I’m Erin and my husband is an active duty Marine. We are out here in Oklahoma for now, getting ready to move to our permanent duty station later this year. I’m not working right now but when we get to our next place I’m going to start putting my degree to good use! Mostly I just volunteer for now with the elderly population, wherever I can. I started lurking on this site right when my husband (then fiance) left for training last October so I’ve been a fan for a while
    :-) Love the site and it’s kept me sane more than once!

  • HealthyMom and Nikki – I’m so glad you have “delurked.” We never know who is reading, and it’s nice to *meet* you.
    Niki – Welcome to SpouseBUZZ!

  • Heather

    Hi all, I’ve been reading SpouseBuzz for probably at least six months but I was a girlfriend and didn’t feel right posting. I have come to find this such a good place and leave reading everyone’s stories. I am now a Marine Fiancee and will be married this next April. I’m currently in San Diego and he’s up at Camp Pendleton. Anyone in the area, I love to talk and make new friends who can relate.
    Niki, where i SoCal are you?

  • Heather – Congrats on the upcoming wedding. How exciting!

  • wow. the lurkers surface! yay. I’m the “old broad”, Army Wife, then National Guard, now back to Big A Army wife. Now at Ft. Belvoir. Anyone from the area want to car pool to the SB live?
    I blog at
    And Spouse Buzz is absolutely the best lifeline I had during our 22 month deployment.

  • Crystal

    My name is Crystal and my DH is AD Navy, currently on IA to Afghanistan..We are stationed here in Pensacola, Fl…if anyone needs info about here, please let me know.
    I also have been lurking around lately..needing and getting the support of you great ladies who blog :) Just knowing that I’m not alone is a GREAT feeling…

  • Crystal – Welcome. We’re glad to have you around here. Yes, it is nice to know that you’re not alone, isn’t it?
    We should have a monthly delurking post… This is great.
    LAW – I think you should know something, look at the newest post. A little gift for you…

  • Heather

    Thanks Andi, I’m so excited! It’s been hard cause I have been a girlfriend for so long, and most people already treat as one of the wives from his unit, but there are a few where they make me feel like it’s not my place to be in these type of forums, or reading up on all this when I’m just a girlfriend. And that always made me feel uncomfortable talking here and on the forums, so I’m excited to feel better as a wife to particpate. Plus I can’t wait to not have distance and go every week between seeing my DF

  • Heather S.

    Heather–I’m sorry that some people have made you feel unwelcome in the spouse world! As a girlfriend you absolutely should be included in forums like this! I’m glad you found this group and I hope that you continue to find spousebuzz to be a helpful source of support. Best to you as you plan your wedding!

  • Heather – don’t feel shy about participating around here. You’re more than welcome at SpouseBUZZ, and ditto what Heather S. said.

  • angela

    i am new to navy life and we are about to get our first new home in everett washington, i need to know all the people i need to contact about the monies side of this all

  • lea

    I new to the site but not so much to the military. I’ve been married to my marine for almost five years. We are up in NY, yes there are marines in NY. He is gone a lot so most of the time its just me and our two little ones, 2 1/2 and 10 mths and am always looking to connect with military folks since there are many up here.
    And Heather- when the other wives make you feel like you dont belong just remember we were all girlfriends first. Well not the husbands but thats neither here nor there. : )

  • Mel

    Hi I am Mel who has been a sporadic poster to Spousebuzz, but an avid reader for the past few months. Currently stationed at FT Bliss, TX while active duty husband is deployed to Iraq as an IA. Just have returned home after 4 straight months of traveling around the country. Taking a sabbatical from my professional life during this tour to spend time with my daughter. Looking forward to more traveling until he returns, but not for such an extended period of time:) Enjoy reading Spousebuzz :)

  • ive glanced over the site before but never really stopped but its coming in handy now you mention topics that really help me out in some things. anyways im Patsy and in Southern CA, my husband is deployed to southern africa for 7 months and yeah. oh im pregnant with out first and this is my first deployment so yeah.

  • jane_smith

    WOW!!! I just logged on here for the first time in months and was shocked to see the link to the Ft Bragg wives group! I posted at the beginning of the year asking is anyone knew any info about Ft Drum, then somehow we were diverted to Bragg months into the PCS. I have been wondering how to meet friends in the area (since I have no neighbors) and was SO pleased to see this post. While my family ‘technically’ belongs to Pope, my hubby supports and deploys with the 82nd and will remain her after the AD Air Force guys leave. I am SO looking forward to connecting with some other wives here and miking friends. SPOUSEBUZZ ROCKS!!!

  • Essie R. Morris

    My case is – I guess-unusual. You see, my Vet Husband is here with me. But because of age and physical conditions,we “can’t due what we used to.” Iwant to complete my doctorate.
    All I need is almost $5.000.00
    and resubmission of my disser-
    tation. PLEASE help me if you
    can. The degree will be in educational administration. Academics were done at Baylor.
    Now I’ve transferred credits to Century University in Albuquerque, New Mex. which has allowed me to travel with
    him singing COUNTRY SOUL MUSIC. Help! Help! Help! Finances are very limited.
    Also, we’d like to share our music with you
    and earn the pennies ourselves.Matters not!

  • bobrien

    Hi all, I’ve been a lurker too. I posted once in June when DH had just left and we just got to the 1 week mark for him coming home. We are in Colorado (Ft. Carson) and he is currently deployed to Iraq. Reading what everyone says has really gotten me through this 1st deployment. We had only been married 3 months when he had to leave so it was very difficult. Thank you to all of you for keeping me sane.

  • phyllis

    Hello, I am Phyllis and I have a 5 year old boy and a 7 year old girl who acts like she is sixteen. My Dh is in Irac driving trucks for the Army National Guard. This is our second deployment and we are not even half way through. I also work full time and we live by San Francisco. I love laughing and crying with you all.

  • sandra motte

    My husband retired after 24vears of serving his country. I have had a stroke at 60 years old. Our low income while he serve in the military has made our social security very small. Idon’t think the men of our should get low social security payment because of their time in service.