Army in Hawaii Mulls Breastfeeding Rules

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When Army spouse Tamara Algots was seen in the Schofield Barracks, Hawaii commissary Feb. 25 breastfeeding her baby in her Ergo baby carrier she was told by a commissary employee to either stop or leave.

“I was shocked because I feed my baby in the commissary all the time,” Algots told us in an interview. “I started tearing up and just left — left my cart full in the middle of the aisle and just walked out.”

Algots was not the only one with that experience – a second nursing mom was told the same thing Feb. 26. Now Hawaii Army officials are reviewing installation breastfeeding rules and considering a policy to “maintain good order and discipline on the installation,” with the aim of  “maintaining a reasonable standard that is in keeping with Army values and community expectations,” U.S. Army Garrison Hawaii officials said in a series of statements posted to Facebook.

Garrison commanders have legal leeway to make rules for their installation as they see fit under U.S. Code Title 10 . Both commissary and AAFES officials told us in statements that they personally do not make such policies but simply follow local installation rules.

The Schoffield Barracks commissary enforces the dress code used by the rest of the post, and illustrates it in pictures on a sign as you enter the building. They also have a room set aside for nursing mothers. The dress code does not address public breast feeding or specifically order feeding mothers to use the room.

Algots said she did not use the room because she had her toddler with her. She said her baby, who was born premature and nurses on demand due to weight concerns, will not eat when covered by a blanket.

The incident was first brought to officials’ attention when first a friend and then Algots herself posted about it during a garrison Facebook town hall event Feb. 28. In her post Algots cited a federal law in her defense as well as Hawaii state law, both of which protect mothers’ rights to breastfeed in public and do not require them to use any covers.

However, state law does not apply to military installations. And while federal law does clearly state it applies to any federal property the military installation may be exempt from following it if the garrison commander deems it necessary, several Military.com JAG sources told us. Other JAG sources said, however, that the law would come down on the side of the Algots.

Garrison Commander Col. Daniel Whitney and the Garrison’s senior NCO, Command Sgt. Maj. Philip Brunwald told Algots and her husband in a private meeting between them and several staff and commissary officials that they will be making a new policy to address the issue, Algots said.

“(Col. Whitney) made it very clear that they do not have to follow federal laws. I kind of found it humorous that he had said it 10 times just to make sure I got it in my head that he could make a ruling,” Albers said. “They made it very clear that a policy was going to be put in place, but they didn’t say what they were going to include. It seemed to us that they really want to see how much they could get away with saying (in the policy) — like you have to use a cover or whatever.”

Algots said she posted her complaint on the Facebook page to help educate officials, including the commissary employee who spoke to her, about the rights of breastfeeding mothers — not to raise a ruckus. She said she does not plan to protest whatever ruling the commander makes.

“I wasn’t going to say anything because it was probably just somebody who didnt know the laws. I didnt want to start a campaign. I didn’t want to be that person,” she told us. “I’m not trying to offend anyone. I won’t take this further.”

Still, Algots said the reason officials have given for making a new policy — “questions raised about what is considered exposure and how it is perceived by others,” according to the statement — are misguided.

“What frustrates me is that they’re doing this policy based on the concern  — and the concern was from me. They did not get a concern or complaint from someone else. The concern and the comment was from me about education of employee,” she said. “I think they are writing the policy and they don’t have any reason to do so.”

But garrison officials said the goal of any new policy is education.

“The Garrison Commander met Friday with the two ladies involved in the incident in order to gain a fuller understanding of what actually occurred,” they said in a statement provided to Military.com and SpouseBuzz. “It became clear that the Garrison needs to have a policy concerning publicly nursing mothers.  Our intent is  not to unduly restrict mothers, but to inform our community, which is a function of command required by the Installation Commander’s responsibilities under Title 10 to maintain good order and discipline on the installation. We want our employees and community to understand the right of nursing mothers to do so in public, and for everyone to know our expectations for the manner in which nursing occurs in public.”

They highlighted in their Facebook statements that breastfeeding in a private way is also a priority.

“We support the nursing of children in public with discretion,” their statements said. “Again, our concern is not with allowing a mother the right to breast-feed in public, it is with the questions raised about what is considered exposure and how it is perceived by others.”

About the Author

Amy Bushatz
Amy is the editor in chief of Military.com’s spouse and family blog SpouseBuzz.com. A journalist by trade, Amy also covers spouse and family news for Military.com where she is the managing editor of spouse and family content. An Army wife and mother of two, Amy has been featured as a subject matter expert on CNN.com, NPR, Fox News, NBC, CBS, ABC and BBC as well as in the New York Times, Wall Street Journal and Washington Post. Follow her on twitter @amybushatz.
  • mongolberry

    that’s the army, one step forward, two steps back.

    • Audrey

      Using the bathroom is a natural functiona alos….but I should not turn acorner to see someone doing it in public. Same goes here. I should not have to turn a corner and see you nursing your child. Do it out of view of others, in privacy. If you are so committed to your premature baby who has to nurse on demand, maybe you should be at home to do this….let someone else rune rrands for you.
      I always thought it weird how women are so proud to whip out their boobs and nurse in public…..even in restaraunts. hello! I am dining out with my husband, not wanting to have your breasts in my eye-line. We love in a modern and civilized world. The only people that this behavior is acceptable for are underdeveloped countries (jungles of South America, Africa….where they do not even wear many articles of clothing), not here in the United States. Come on women.

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      • Jennifer Echevarria

        I’m struck by the irony of your statement. You are offended by seeing someone eating in a restaurant? Because that’s what’s happening – the baby is eating in public, as are you. And if you are dining out with your husband, it seems to me that you would be looking at him, not at someone else’s table.

        Also, “if you are so committed to your premature baby”? IF? All mothers should be committed to their babies, this is not an option. And we have to be at home to do this? We can’t be committed to our children in public? Since when does motherhood equal being a hermit?

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  • Martin Stewart

    Wow, Is this a slow news day…Or What! No doubt this Story will be up for a Pullitzer?

    • Kate

      Let me guess, Martin: You’ve never breastfed a child, have you? This is a huge deal for female military spouses who breastfeed their children, and it’s on a website for military spouses. This is exactly the type of thing I want SpouseBUZZ to write about, because it is an issue that affects military spouses.

      I hope that the legal representatives explain to Col. Whitney why it would be legally and ethically wrong to make a regulation restricting breastfeeding to certain locations or styles of nursing. If he chooses to make a regulation limiting mother’s and children’s rights, I hope someone challenges that regulation. In my opinion, anyone who has an issue with breastfeeding, in any location or situation, needs to do some serious introspection into why they are so shallow.

      If the garrison leadership is truly concerned about maintaining good order and discipline, and “maintaining a reasonable standard that is in keeping with Army values and community expectations,” perhaps they should consider some regulations regarding the selection of clothing available for adolescent girls at the AAFES store. Now that is a real problem.

      • sabrinacking

        In my opinion…any woman who feels it necessary to not be discreet…and fling it all out there to breastfeed, as I saw at the PX…should be evaluated by a psychiatrist for narcissistic exhibitionist tendencies.

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        • Kate

          I hope we will also be sending all the non-breastfeeding, “fling it all out there” ladies to the same psychiatrist. I consider them to be a bigger concern.

        • Heather

          I agree with you. I really don’t enjoy seeing another woman breast feed. Just because it’s natural doesn’t mean I want to see it. It’s natural to pee, but I wouldn’t want to see people doing it in the street. Common decency, that’s all this is about.

          • Sabrina

            Exactly. And unfortunately…common decency is out the window any more not just on post but everywhere. The same “total motherhood” crowd also helicopter parent…they also have the kid screaming at FRG meetings or post functions running all over everywhere, they have the kids spazzing out in the movie theatre or the grocery store because they have taught the child from the second it is born…the world revolves around you. No, no it doesn’t. You can nurse your kids, I did both to almost two they weaned themselves at that point…and guess what GOOD mothers have been nursing for two centuries in this country..discreetly. They didn’t need to bare it all in a commissary aisle or the food court. These people act like no one before them ever breast fed. We did, we just had more dignity.

          • Kate

            Gosh, again, I’ve had completely opposite experiences from you. I find that the people who have kids screaming at FRG meetings or spazzing out at the movie theatre are exactly the opposite of the people who breastfeed. I’d actually like to do a study on that, it would be fascinating.

            I don’t know where you have gotten the mistaken idea that breastfeeding has been historically hidden. The desire to make breastfeeding a private act is a recent development in social history. I believe that was a negative change, and I’m glad people are trying to make the change back to normalizing breastfeeding.

          • YZP

            You seriously are not comparing peeing to a woman FEEDING HER CHILD are you? So because YOU are uncomfortable with seeing a baby EAT, a mother should not have the right to do so in public? We should banish her to a specific room to do so, as to make sure your poor little insufficient brain does not get bothered? Are you saying that if a woman is in public and her child is hungry that child should go hungry because watching it eat would offend you? I do agree with you on one thing. This is about common decency., THE COMMON DECENCY TO LET A WOMAN FEED HER CHILD WITHOUT BEING JUDGED BY THE IGNORANT MASSES WHO SEEM TO THINK A CHILD WHO NEEDS TO EAT IS INDECENT!

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  • david

    Well yeah….don’t be hangin out them feeding bags when we can have two men or woman exchanging kisses in the hallway in the commissary or BX in front of my kids……that’s way more natural….Way to go ARMY BRA$$….

    • SGM Bob

      David – you nailed it!

  • sabrinacking

    Just this weekend, up here in Siberia, read: Drum…a woman came walking out of the bathroom by the foodcourt at the PX with a baby latched on, probably a 6 monthish old…no covering, no carrier…just her stomach hanging out, the entire side of her breast exposed, shirt pulled way up almost to the side of her face on one side…..no humility whatsoever…just strolled right out into the food court. Like an episode of Discovery Channel. As my husband just said “she was pretty much XXX in the foodcourt”.
    Look, I am all for nursing, I nursed both of my own children. But standardized rules about covering in public, or designated nursing areas are for the benefit of everyone….I’d like to see them DoD standardized.

    • Leigh Ann

      Standardized rules? Federal law trumps standardized rules and when the Army starts regulating dependents and Federal law….well I can’t wait to see that lawsuit and federal investigation. Americans are the only people in the world who are hung up on breast feeding in public.

      • Fordownr

        Sad but so true….

    • Guest

      America has become a nation of prudes. So sad that something as natural as breastfeeding is viewed with discust! Yet violence, blood and gore are fine!

      • ash

        Prudish about the wrong things. It’s ok to allow children and teens to wear sexual revealing clothing but not ok to feed a hungry baby?

      • Steve

        America has always been a nation of prudes. That’s what you got for Britain shipping all their religious fanatics there.

    • sam

      Just to be clear, I absolutely understand your issue here. It’s not about the public breast feeding, or her breast being exposed. It’s about the fact that she was practically completely topless. The woman you are refering to seems to have been doing it for shock value, not for the sake of feeding her child. Agreed, seriously lady, understandable about not covering your chest for the sake of feeding your child, however, do you think you could attempt to cover your gut and attempt having a little class?

      • Kim

        You missed the point. It’s about health, not breasts. Gow up.

    • steve

      Lack of sensibility, lack of modesty, lack of decorum. The Military facilities are not the place to feed babies from the breast to be viewed by other military personnel! Knowing full well that breast feeding is a beautiful part of motherhood. As the saying goes, there’s a place and time for everything. This world does not evolve around the breast feeders, even if they “may” think so!!!! Feeding te baby, come hell or ice water is not the norm ladies…..Proper planning and scheduling applies as if a bottle was involved, instead of the female “milk” glands…..

      • ash

        Proper planning and scheduling? Can you read? This was a preemie who had to eat on demand or face the dreaded “failure to thrive” so many babies face when people start trying to dictate a body”s natural rhythm. We wouldn’t expect an adult to face painful hunger because it is not convenient.

      • sabrinacking

        I breastfed both kids. And yes my husband was deployed, and YES one was born 6 weeks early….guess what? Still never had to feed in an aisle in the commissary OR without any modesty covering. These women act as if no one ever breastfed before them in this country. Go ahead, say you can’t be modest. Say you can’t be decent…but you’re just lying to yourself everyone else knows the truth.

      • Kim

        Grow up Steve. It’s about health, not breasts. The Act is pretty clear, the ‘‘Consolidated Appropriations

        Act, 2012’’, H. R. 2055 states:

        SEC. 723. Notwithstanding any other provision of law, a woman

        may breastfeed her child at any location in a Federal building

        or on Federal property, if the woman and her child are otherwise

        authorized to be present at the location.

    • SmithB

      How is breast feeding like xxx? What kind of porn does your hubby watch?

      • sabrinacking

        You had to be there…she had her shirt damn near OFF, gut hanging out, one breast partially exposed and the other full on exposed, she had one arm completely out of her shirt….Just walking through the food court…pretty much everyone in the area was WTF?

  • Gary

    What is wrong with people? Breast feeding is a natural function of a Mother and baby. It is not sexual it is not indecent it is not exposure it is the way babies were meant to be fed. I see absolutely nothing wrong and if this Commander in Hawaii has a problem with it I think it is time he grew up and realized the facts of life and let people live.

    • Kim

      You are so right Gary!

  • Lillie Dearman

    Go Army. Keep the commissary a decent place to shop!

    • BEB

      So breastfeeding is, therefore, “indecent”?
      How ignorant.

    • BreastfeedingNow

      Wait the commissary is decent? Did I miss that memo?

      • KateKashman

        Thanks for making me laugh amid all my outrage :)

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  • Catie

    I agree with Sabrinacking. I have found no problem nursing my son in the designated nursing areas in public or i just bring prepumped bottle with me in case he gets fussy. I myself feel uncomfortable nursing him in the public eye and also feel uncomfortable when i see other women who use no discretion what so ever. A military establishment has different standards than a regular grocery store or public facility and it shouldn’t have been a surprise when this woman was told so.

    • sabrinacking

      I agree. I breastfed both kids. Never once did I find it necessary to conduct myself in the fashion I saw at the PX this weekend and have been seeing a lot of lately. The woman had her arm out of her shirt…no carrier, no cover, tshirt clear up under chin exposing her entire torso, full breast and almost 1/2 her other breast. Or perhaps what people are saying is we think we should just do away with tops all together in the PX….

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    • Kim

      So sad that you would be embarrassed to do something as wholesome and healthy as nursing your baby. Nursing in public is a good mommy skill,but does take some practice. We should be supporting moms more and their right to nurse, whenever their babe is hungry, wherever they are, period. This is about our health and our kid’s health. :)

    • amazed@this

      Im active duty and there are times more often than not that I have to nurse my son, now there are times that he has a bottle but the bottles dont always last so for someone to feel embarrassed or what not in public to see a child being fed is wrong. Now I understand the federal laws don’t apply on a military installations but seriously if you have that big of a problem with a mother nursing her child why are you even looking in the first place, its natural it’s healthy and breast aren’t made for people to stare at anyways. I’m appalled about this whole thing, and I agree with a statement that was made prior for some reason regulations get set so that someone doesn’t have to deal with the issue.

  • streetsoldier

    Leave MOM alone. She has enough to deal with. Are you jealousy of the baby.

  • Kira

    I am a nursing, ACTIVE DUTY member. I don’t agree that women should be allowed to just “whip it out” and feed their baby. I cover up because I tend to not want to expose myself to others, whether it be the immature soldier trying to catch a peek, or the child with their mother walking down the aisles. Modesty is never a bad thing. Neither is respect. I respect those that choose to nurse or bottle feed, but quit trying to martyr yourselves by pushing the issue. Use the lactation room provided. Use pre-pumped milk. Use a nersing cover – not a blanket. A nursing cover is light and breatheable and the good ones allow mother and baby to see each other.

    • wildflowerramblings

      I am a nursing sm as well. I would never nurse in public in uniform. However, when in civilian clothing, I will certainly nurse when my baby is hungry. She can’t stand a cover, so I don’t use one. She won’t take a bottle so I can’t “pre pump” (pumping is an awful experience for me). She had her baby in an Ergo. She is a civilian.

      • MMJ

        I love that comment, ‘she is a civilian,’ yes, yes she is!

    • Kim

      So sad that you would be embarrassed to do something as wholesome and healthy as nursing your baby. Nursing in public is a good mommy skill,but does take some practice. “Hooter-hiders” are unneccessary. We should be supporting moms more and their right to nurse, whenever their babe is hungry, wherever they are, period. This is about our health and our kid’s health. :)

      • MMJ

        Yeah and as a military spouse, I’m sure you’re aware of the word “heinous”

      • Kate

        Kim, I love how eloquently you explain it. I just get so angry that I can’t think straight.

    • MMJ

      I couldn’t agree more! Thank you!!

  • George

    A little common decency is in order here. I know that there will be many comments about this comment, but let’s face, in our modern society decency has been thrown out the window as most other things. All you breast feeding mothers should at least attempt to use a little common sense and also include decency.

    • Kate

      Why is breastfeeding indecent? Because it involves a breast, which, as a collateral duty, can be used for sexual pleasure? If this is your logic, then we should all wear gloves and cover our mouths, as well. And let’s not forget feet – many people find them sexy.

  • gysgtwarren

    I wonder if the employee has ever had a child. Breast feeding is natural, it is not indecent exposurea s the child is latched onto the nipple suckling for all it’s worth. They should just fall back on common sense here. Next thing they will make pet owners put up a blind and force their pets to clean themselves in private. Total lunacy here.

    • SGM Bob

      Warren – you’re right!

    • Karl

      I didnt think it was lunacy I thought it was just common sense, Noy everyone wants to see a woman breastfeeding in public. I get tired of always hearing its her right. well what about my right not to see it.
      This has been going on I guess since the beginning of time, so why is it now such a big deal that has to be done for everyone to watch. If a guy was to stand there and watch you would probably want him arrested for watching you. get a life and think about it

    • Lopez

      Lets not fall into attacking and labeling others in the discussion as if others don’t have rights or are less. There are many natural things that do not need to be viewed in public. There are needs of children that need to be considered, but as reasoning adults some balance can be agreed upon to solve the issue. As a father I do not want my boys exposed to those images and my wife did breast feed. I believe this can be worked out without the attacks. I would hope calm minds prevail!

    • Bob

      Peeing is also natural, I don’t think peeing in public is justified either.

      • gysgtwarren

        comparing cars to cats here Bob. No relation in the comparison. If he don’t want to see it, DON’T LOOK.

  • Jenny

    I’ve lived in numerous countries and only here at home have I experienced the taboos we Americans have. Only here are people offended by something that is perfectly natural and not sexual in any way. Only in America do we turn anything and everything into something offensive or sexual. So many hangups and taboos. It’s sad. Just plain sad.

  • jay

    Chris–Behave.

    • Chris

      LOL – I noticed they deleted my post. No humor.

  • shooshanre

    This is just another in a long line of foolish behaviors. This is not about breast feeding the baby. This is about ‘I can do this because.’ Plan your day and feeding times. Not ‘Gee I’ll go to the commissary and feed the baby at the same time. That will give me time to DO WHAT later. Give it a break. There are times and places. In public isn’t one of them.
    I used to drive through a very wealthy town on my way to and from work. The women in the town would not bother to look both ways when crossing the street because they were pushing baby carriages and it was the worlds place to stop so a child didn’t get hurt.. As it has been said ‘Don’t be stupid because you can.’

    • Miriam

      “Plan your day and feeding times.”

      hahahahaha

      • wildflowerramblings

        Exactly, does this person have a child? Have they ever cared for another human being before?

      • MMJ

        hahaha because you can plan it! I carry several 5 ounce bottles as well as binkies and it works for me as well as many other women. Whats so wrong with being modest now days?

        • Kate

          MMJ, this has nothing to do with modesty. There is nothing immodest about feeding a baby.

          I’m glad pumping worked well for you, it doesn’t work for everyone. I’m glad your child took a bottle – I imagine it gave you a lot more choices than having a baby who won’t take a bottle. I’m glad a pacifier worked for you. Some parents choose not to use them, for medical reasons or personal preference. Some babies hate them. (None of my four children would tolerate a pacifier. It was so annoying.)

          Perhaps you should consider that not all mothers have the options you had, or perhaps that they have the right to make different choices that you made. Just because it is your way doesn’t make it right, and it sure doesn’t make it the law.

    • BFN

      To keep milk a mother has to feed on demand ezzo.info anyone?

    • MMJ

      I love it and couldnt agree more!

    • YZP

      Then let us all ban any type of restaurant or eating in public in general! I do not want to see you chew your food or hear the sounds you make when you eat or drink so please refrain from doing this. This is the message you are sending to breast feeding mothers. Plan your day and feeding times? Sorry but that is not always possible. Somethings things come up. Sometimes your husband calls and says “Hey do you mind if I invite the new guy and his family over tonight, they are having a hard time adjusting and I want to try and make them feel welcomed” so planning your day goes out the window. OR how about “oh by the way mom, I forgot that we are having a bake sale tomorrow to help us raise money for our orchestra field trip. I told them you would make 3 dozen cookies”. Times and places to breast feed???? Seriously???? Yes the times are whenever a baby needs to eat and the places are WHERE EVER THE HECK A MOTHER WANTS TO DO IT BECAUSE FEEDING HER CHILD TRUMPS ANY TYPE OF NEGATIVE FEELINGS YOU MAY HAVE ABOUT IT. For you to sit there and compare a feeding mother and stupid people is seriously wrong and speaks volumes of your mental status. A women breast feeding is not the same as a woman who has no common sense to look both ways before crossing the street. I agree, just because you have a baby does not mean the world has to stop what its doing and bow down to you. Your example of the woman crossing the road is an example of entitlement and that is wrong. But a women NEEDING and WANTING to feed her child is not an entitlement. Its not a luxury. Its not a privilege. It is her HUMAN right to do so without being made a villain.

      • shooshanre

        Wow your husband called and said he was bringing some one over for supper. And then when the baby messes his or her diaper you can just put it on the table and change it. Can’t interrupt the dinner. Give it a break. If I used the excuses that you women are bringing up when I was in the military or business I would have been demoted or not promoted and in business – fired. Gee I can think of more reasons. “I had a meteor crash my house and couldn’t breastfeed my baby so I will do that at WalMart.” If you and the others can’t take the child out to car as it seems these feedings are emergencies of such immense magnitude that the child will die if not fed right now, then something is wrong with the child that I do not think breastfeeding it in public is going to cure. I guess this will also apply to the child’s diaper being full. Throw it on the vegetables and change it. You won’t have any other time to do this in your manic life.

        • kw4954

          If we didn’t feed the child and held out for the car like you want, you’d be the first to give the stink eye for a crying baby and would be saying why won’t she just feed the baby.

          I’m sorry I can’t just drop everything and go to the car for you when I am shopping alone with my children.

    • Valerie

      Clearly you don’t have children, or have never breastfed, especially a preemie!! You don’t get to “plan your day and feeding times”

  • Jane Doe

    I think this is ridiculous. If she was wearing an Ergo than there wasn’t much to see. Not all babies are on schedules (especially preemies, because I’ve had 2 preemies). Not all babies take bottles-especially exclusively breastfed ones. I agree with Jenny that there is an enormous hangup with many things in America, and we all just need to grow up and get over it.

  • Esther

    What a bunch of morons we have here. Yes, breastfeeding is natural, but so is sex, and we don’t do that in public. If federal Law says it OK to expose your breasts because you’re feeding a baby, then it should be changed. Urinating is natural, too, but we don’t do that in public, either.

    • Rebecca

      Oh my gosh. Your ignorance is showing, you may want to tuck it back in…

      Comparing breastfeeding to urinating or sex is ridiculous. You could compare it to an adult eating however. If eating in public is obscene, we need to take another look at why we have restaurants.

    • Marie

      then next time you are in public, go and eat in the public toilet.

    • Kim

      Grow up esther. This is about health, not breasts.

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  • mre3345

    Regardless of the need or preference of the mother to breastfeed, it is indecent exposure. Anyway you view it, the breast and more specifically, nipple is exposed. Most often it’s a personal choice though the people that make the biggest deal about it have a reason outside of personal choice like the situation here. Do you want your children seeing a bunch of breasts at every turn? Individual families make to choice of whether they’d like to breastfeed or not. The United States is made up of various cultures. People should have a choice of whether they’re okay being exposed to that.

    • ken

      Only in America (USA) can a woman breast feeding an infant be classified as an exhibitionist and it generally it’s by someone with an attitude similar to yours. Sounds like hubby’s XXX comment might have set you off as well but then again your hubby must be a lay-leader or member of the clergy for a naked breast to be XXX. hahaha. I find your indignation pitiful.

    • Kate

      I keep asking this because I seek different opinions from different commenters. How is breastfeeding indecent? If “people should have a choice of whether they are okay being exposed to “a mother feeding her child, then shouldn’t people also have a choice not to look at other things that might offend them? I, myself, really dislike tattoos. Perhaps we should make everyone cover them up so I am not offended. This is the logical extension of your argument.

      • sabrinacking

        I don’t think breast feeding is indecent, and I have never once seen anyone complain about someone discreetly breastfeeding. I think the issue is people are pushing social norms beyond societal agreement. I breastfed, never had to be topless in public to do so…but I have seen this numerous times here…maybe it’s a Drum thing….I am talking arms out of shirt, shirt hanging around your neck at Aldiss (grocery store), shirt completely off at Thompson Park…public park here, and one arm out shirt hiked up so entire torso is exposed as well as entire breast…I have seen that numerous times now. It’s lude, and has nothing to do with feeding a child, it’s a political statement at best, exhibitionism at worst and ALL about the mother, not the child. Also…breast milk is a bodily fluid, I’d rather people not bleed or ejaculate at the food court too…

    • Miriam

      “it is indecent exposure”

      Not according to the law.

    • wildflowerramblings

      An Ergo is a baby carrier that keeps a baby’s head just below or at the mother’s chin. This baby, if in the Ergo, was facing the mother, and the material around the Ergo was certainly covering her enough not to allow her nipple to show. Children “seeing a bunch of breasts” is not what this mother was exposing anyone to. She was feeding a premature baby. I suggest you educate yourself about breastfeeding, its benefits, as well as the situation. “People should have a choice of whether they’re okay being exposed to that.” — a mother feeding her child? Oh the HORROR.

    • Winky White

      “bunch of breasts” lol

    • Kim

      Not indecent exposure when involved in nursing. Grow up , it is about health not breasts.

    • YZP

      How is breast feeding “indecent”?
      And as for my children, no, I would not care if my kids were exposed to a billion women breast feeding. That is how children learn to be tolerant and excepting of people, unlike yourself.

      • Kate

        YZP, great job teaching your children the intended use of breasts!

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      • Kate

        Wouldn’t that be nice? I want to shake people when I see babies crammed in carries, with a bottle propped up with a blanket. Hello! You can feed with a bottle or with a breast, but do it with some caring, love and safety-mindedness.

    • Mal

      I’m fine w/ my kids (both boys) seeing women nursing. There are scantily clad women all over the place and I’d much rather have my kids see breasts being used as nourishment. People do have the right to decide what they’re exposed to; if they don’t want to see breastfeeding they can stay home.

  • Nick

    The reason it passed at the federal level was due to the overwhelming support of the American Pediatric Association. Doctors know how important breast-feeding is, and also how difficult it can be for some mothers/children. My wife and I have an underweight baby because his appetite has not developed with his age. He also won’t take a bottle and covering will occasionally cause him to stop eating. As a father I will tell you I don’t care what the regulation is. We try to go to private or secluded areas, but when my son wants/needs to eat he is going to have the opportunity to eat until he is at a healthy weight. All of those solutions that have been mentioned previously are great for those kids, but they don’t work for mine. Our doctors, my wife, and I all know what works: breast feeding.

    • Kate

      Nick, thank you for supporting your wife as she does what is best for your child. You sound like a great person.

    • MMJ

      And you can breastfeed in the women’s restroom and be modest about it. I’ve done it, its not hard!

      • ash

        If you’re willing to feed your child in a germ-ridden bathroom that is your choice, I won’t

      • Jennifer Echevarria

        Do you eat in a public bathroom? I don’t. And I certainly wouldn’t force that on my baby.

      • Kate

        MMJ, you’re right, it’s not hard. But it is unnecessary, and it is gross. Perhaps you would like to eat your lunch in the toilet as well?

      • kw4954

        MMJ when you eat in a bathroom, I will join you. Did you know that fecal particles are flown up to 20 ft by public toilets. MMKay.

  • Noisycricket67

    But,…. yet if two gay/lesbian soldiers in uniform were holding hands or kissing,,in the commissary they would not say anything! The military is down right a bunch of idiots!!

  • BobSacamano

    This is an issue that I’ll never understand! How has someone — the offended — been so influenced that something as natural as breast feeding is somehow construed as sexual/dirty, to be hidden from the eyes?! Who’s the person that sees this activity and is instantly offended?! What a colossal waste of time to be running around screaming with arms overhead when an infant is being nourished, that’s nuts folks!!!

  • Conradswims

    This is just a joke right. Only a total moron would tell a mother to quit nursing her baby.

  • Never, I mean never pull this crap with a nursing mother! Like they don’t have enough going on post birth. Now they have to worry about over sensitive A holes turning baby feeding time into “o my gosh I can see…. well nothing really, but my mind is filling in the gaps.” Really? REALLY?

    • Navywife

      Seriously!

  • top dog

    Breastfeeding your baby should be as natural as walking, it’s normal. There was a time when breastfeeding a baby in public was not a problem….anywhere. When I was a kid, mothers use to do it in Church, now, it has been “demonized” to the point of tabu, all because some butthole wanted to make an extra buck. I remember when it changed, first they said, breastfeeding your baby was bad for the baby because the mother could pass on her germs(not true). Then they said, formula was better for the baby than the mothers milk(also not true), in fact thats an out right lie and they know it, but they don’t want the mothers to know it. This policy is about money, it has nothing to be with indecency, and it sure as heck not XXX, as one poster put it. Covering up while you breastfeed your baby should be allowed, my wife did it when my daughter was a baby, on post. Ft. Hood. She is a grown woman now, and a mother herself, and she breastfeed her daughter as well

  • Fritz

    More rules are required because common sense is no longer part of our world.

  • Fran

    Is there a nursing room in the commissary? Why are people offended by a nursing mother? Yikes, what next!!!

    • Bella

      Yes, there is a nursing room. And she was actually asked to use it or cover, but she refused. She left out that part of the story.

      • Kate

        No, it wasn’t “left out.” It was irrelevant. There is no reason that a person should be relegated to a certain room (more likely a converted closet) to feed their child. Alternately, we could build a bunch of little cell-like cubicles in the food court, so we could avoid seeing anyone eat.

      • kristen

        She was not asked to cover.

  • John D

    Will everyone stop!! These women just need to cover up a bit and be a bit more courteous to others, I don’t want to see someone feeding her kid nor see them change a diaper in public!! What about my rights!! Everyone thinks that they are soooo important but it’s the rights of the MAJOIRITY that makes the laws! You can’t please everyone but common sense is there. You want to flash your breasts in public then get a dance pole!!

    • Kate

      The laws have already been made. Federal and state laws state that breastfeeding is permitted in any location and may be done in any way desired by the mother.

    • Miriam

      Oh, so your “rights” supersede a babies need to eat? Nice.

    • ash

      As stated multiple times, some babies won’t eat covered and won’t take bottles. You have the right to look away, leave, or get over yourself. A parent making a child go hungry for the comfort of a stranger is a bad parent.

    • Gina

      John D- I don’t want to see you eat in public either. Nor do my children. Please, put a blanket over your head next time.

    • YZP

      A woman breast feeding her child is not FLASHING HER BREAST and it shows the type of mind set you have to even make the comparison. How should a woman “cover up a bit” in order to make YOU more comfortable with her FEEDING her child. (both of which are human rights, not God given rights, or Government sanctioned rights, but NATURAL HUMAN RIGHTS. Rights that every person are born with) I have known many mothers who would have loved to have been able to put a blanket over their childs head while they feed but there are a lot of children who do not like to be covered while feeding. The only reason any of these other mothers wished they could have covered their children is because of people like you who find it offensive and feel the need to express their feelings about it to the mother, who is doing nothing wrong.

    • Liz

      Is it ok for a baby to eat from a bottle in public? If your answers yes, then you need to stop and realize that you said it’s ok for some babies to eat but not others because it makes YOU uncomfortable.

      and before someone says pump, I can’t and I know many other mom’s can’t as well. Just doesn’t work.

  • BobSacamano

    You’d think by the reaction of some readers here, the nursing mothers were naked from the waist-up with a twin attached to each breast, spinning them like tassels in a Burlesque show!!!

    Why not just see the activity and simply carry-on with the chores of the day, go home and relax!!! Shouldn’t life be wonderful?…

    • Kate

      BobSacamano, I just want to tell you that every time I read this comment, I think “uch!” and I then think, “Oooh, I’d like to see that!” I appreciate the laugh.

  • sabrinacking

    Exactly. We live in a society. Not some hidden tribe…a civil society. In order to participate in that society, it is not “obtuse” to ask for some universal conformity. This issue is a no brainer. I never once in breastfeeding two kids had to be next to topless in public, which is what I saw this weekend at the PX and am seeing increasingly more and more on and off post. It has nothing to do with breastfeeding, and everything to do with a mother who has antisocial tendencies. You don’t want to belong to the majority society…fine. Go live on a commune somewhere.

    • Khalilah
      • sabrinacking

        I can only presume…people are more mature and less obstinate in their breastfeeding practices where you are. Here, the new norm seems to be topless=ok. I don’t want to see anyone topless male or female at the food court…I think the woman this article is about appears to have been discreet..my personal complaint is the new norming of topless women in public to breastfeed, a little modesty goes a long way.

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  • Allie Altonji

    Seriously, if anyone has a problem with women not covering with nursing..

    Close your eyes? Turn away? Stop staring like a creep? Just a few options.

    Grow up.

  • wildflowerramblings

    This is an outrage. While I don’t think a mother in uniform should be publicly breastfeeding in a commissary, any civilian mother should be able (even saying “allowed” would be atrocious) to feed her baby as s/he needs. Breastfeeding is so difficult and the fact that she is condemned for giving her baby the best is unbelievable. I hope that she and others fight this ridiculous notion of “new installation rules”.

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  • Annie Leos

    I am assuming that all the people saying keep the breast feeding at home. Have never ate at at a public restaurant or feed a bottle to a baby in public. Which in my opinion vastly more lazy and obscene method of parenting method then breast feeding.

    • Gina

      Couldn’t agree more. I’m offended by the fact that all of the food choices on our base are very low quality fast food. I’m offended when I see toddlers drinking mystery colored drinks (juice, soda, energy drinks?) from bottles. Can we have a rule to address these obscenities?

  • ash

    Some babies will NOT eat covered. Mine screams bloody murder if covered and absolutely refuses bottles. I may try to find a quiet corner to nurse, or face a wall. I always wear undershirts so all that’s visible is the part necessary for feeding and the baby usually immediately covers that, but it’s not anyone’s call how, when, or where I feed my children.

  • Amy

    For everybody saying “get a room!”, fine: Just apply it to everyone. Your formula fed kid wants a bottle? Nursing room. Your toddler wants those pretzels in your purse you brought for him to snack on? Nursing room. Formula smells gross, and your toddler chews with his mouth open. Why should I have to see that when I’m shopping?
    Got frozens in your cart, spent all morning at the peds clinic trying to get *anyone* to see your sick toddler, and you need to pick your older one up from school? Too bad, so sad. Should have planned your day better I guess.
    (Note for the perpetually clueless, which is quite a few of you based on these comments: This is called “sarcasm”)

    • Jennifer Echevarria

      LOL, I love this. Rock on. :-)

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    • Gina
  • You folks need to get a grip. This isn’t a floor show. Its just feeding the baby. If you can’t handle it turn you dainty head. Has been happening for a few years now folks. Not like out in town in the GOGO joint, just Mom and the baby. You don’t do it, Bravo for you, zip your lip and move on, nothin to see here. The Policy question for ” good order” ? Is anyone expecting this to cause a riot? Not the business of the px employees or the other customers. Mom didn’t come down there for your review. And you who have better time budgeting suggestions for her life try just living your own. Some thing are IMPORTANT. This shouldnt be a big deal AT ALL.

  • Jonelle

    I’m appalled at this article and the comments. I hate how they respond in “how it may be perceived”. You can do anything and someone can take it te wrong way, doesn’t mean it should be deemed wrong.

    Breastfeeding is natural and is an act of nourishing a child. PERIOD. If you perceive this in any other way, than you need to be checked!

    Under any circumstance, it should be praised she is nursig in public.
    Why should she cover up? Do you all not know that babies hate being covered up and a baby fussing along with a mother struggling to keep the cover in place actually draws more attention and makes a breastfeeding session that should be 5 mins long turn in to a dreaded wrestling match.
    If a child needs to eat then so be it. She shouldn’t feel compelled to go in to a secreted room and making her shopping trip longer then it has to. Whip it and feed the child and that’s it.

    Breast have another purpose other than sexual pleasure!!

  • Winky White

    All of this ruckus in a state where half the population wear little next to nothing on the beaches and while walking downtown. Bathing suits are expected on the beach – breastfeeding is expected with a baby. Perception, people. A wise word to those VERY few mothers who seem to lack common sense, but let’s not criminalize all. This needs to be repeated. Thank you, Cheryl Papciak-Brooks
    The Act is pretty clear, the ‘‘Consolidated Appropriations
    Act, 2012’’, H. R. 2055 states:
    SEC. 723. Notwithstanding any other provision of law, a woman may breastfeed her child at any location in a Federal building or on Federal property, if the woman and her child are otherwise authorized to be present at the location.

    • Laura S

      Saying immodesty is okay when compared to other immodesty does not make it modest. Just sayin’.

  • MAJ G M.

    The problem with the garrison commanders statement is that he is using his personal opinion of what is considered “discrete” and implying that by virtue of nursing a baby, that there is something indiscreet or shameful taking place. That is a problem the US has with nursing moms, and until those who are in the position to effect positive change do so,and support the most natural and beneficial form of feeding a child (on no one else’s terms and with no qualifiers or modifications), then that change will never happen.
    If anyone looks at a mother nursing a child and sees something sexual, then that makes them a pedophile and they really need to seek professional help.

    • kristen

      Thank you. That is my issue exactly with the statements by Garrison.

  • Bella

    What this article leaves out is the ever changing story by this and the other woman. They were asked to use the nursing room or cover and they both refused. At least that was the first story they told on Facebook. A picture of the other woman, which she posted on a FB group, would probably have been too revealing for this forum. She was wearing a tank top and her breast was pulled out over it. The only part of her breast not visible was her nipple because of the baby; everything else exposed. Do women walk around with pasties? Because that is what it equated to.
    In all my years of breastfeeding out in public no one ever approached me to complain. That is because I was discreet. And covering does not mean throwing a comforter over the baby! Something as small as a burping cloth that can cover the top of the breast area would suffice.
    These women were looking for attention, just like this one as she says they are making policy due to her. It is all me me me! They were looking for their 15 seconds of fame. They wanted to make a statement.

    • sabrinacking

      AMEN! This is my exact point.

      • sabrinacking

        Whatever happened to using a sling…I realize with kids at 17 and 12 I am a relic here…but I breastfed both and they pretty much lived in slings until they were crawling…you can’t see anything in a sling..I am NOT antibreastfeeding in public…I am Anti exposing ones self ostentatiously to breastfeed in public. We live in a society, to which even a baby must learn to conform to participate. Just get a sling people.

        • Gina

          She was wearing the baby in a carrier that is much like a sling.

    • kw4954

      Slings have actually been seen to cause suffocation in smaller babies.

      • sabrinacking

        Slings have been used by many cultures for thousands of years…clearly if a child suffocated in one it was user error.

    • kw4954

      Bella the two ladies that this happened to, did not originally post this issue, it was a fellow nursing mom that was deeply concerned over this issue. So no they weren’t looking for this. the other pic you are referring to was taken herself so the angle was different due to holding her arm out to get the shot. The picture featured in the article is how one would look nursing in an Ergo. They were not asked to cover, you are mistaken. They were asked to relocate or leave which is against federal law, period.

  • Robin

    If it is not offensive to feed a baby with a bottle in public, or for you or your child to be seen eating in public – and it is not! – then it is not offensive to breastfeed in public. End of story. Quit harassing moms just trying to do the best thing for their babies and get everything else done they need to do too. Feeding a baby is nothing like showing skin to arouse sexual interest, and anyone who perceives it that way is the problem who should be dealt with by any policy changes.

  • ash

    I couldn’t find the comment that was sent to my email about someone saying they fed their kids in a bathroom. I feel sorry for any child forced to eat in such a filthy place. If there is a clean, well-maintained nursing room it is advisable to use it, yes. Covering as much of the breast as possible without covering the baby is polite, and wearing an undershirt to avoid showing as much skin as the Jersey shore girls would be nice, but nobody has the right to tell an infant they can’t eat when they’re hungry and a bathroom is a disgusting place to eat so unless you’re willing to eat YOUR meals there don’t tell me to take my child in there.

  • Michael

    Ladies, you would be well advised to cover up around the perverts in the military. Have you not been following the sexual assult cases and inappropriate actions of high ranking officers in the news lately ? The Army has a lot more than breastfeeding to worry about (suicide, rape).

  • Elizabeth

    You know it’s really nice to live in Europe where there is no need at all for breastfeeding laws because it is considered NORMAL for a woman to breastfeed and no one here thinks it’s gross and disgusting. I’m so proud that the Grafenwoehr Army Garrison Provost Marshall vowed to stand by the federal law protecting women’s rights to breastfeed their babies and will enforce it whenever needed. THAT is how rights are protected. I think you’ve all forgotten what your soldiers are fighting for. Get the heck over it people, use your neck muscles and look away if it bothers you that much! Also, remember to not go to the beach at all because you will see more skin in one day than you’ll see in your entire lifetime from a breastfeeding mother. Any of you against the rights of a baby should be ashamed of yourselves.

  • J K E

    I guess the question comes down to whether you can just legislate away what you might personally consider to be bad taste. Last I checked, commissaries are pretty much the epicenters of bad taste. Kind of ironic that one of the readers said that commissaries have “different standards” than public grocery stores. Boy, ain’t that the truth, but not in the way she meant. A breastfeeding mom pales in comparison to some of the trash you see on a daily basis. My children have seen my breasts plenty of times. What I don’t want them seeing is the butt cracks, the hooker clothes on women young and old, the dirty, unkempt commissary patrons, the couples tonguing each other in the aisles, etc. But that’s life; I just hustle them through as fast as possible and tell them, if they ask, “We don’t behave that way.” The store employee who said that military bases “don’t have to follow federal rules” is a gem, too. Of COURSE we follow federal rules; how does he think he got, and keeps, his job? How about true leadership rather than slapping down another cover-your-@** rule: How about, if it bothers you, offering (nicely) to the mom in question to watch her toddler, and her cart, for awhile so she can take care of business (wherever and however she needs to do that). And if she’s comfortable juggling all that on her own, then so be it, finish your own shopping and be on your way. She might be embarrassed by an offer of help because she’s trying to be invisible and get her business done, but she might be grateful for someone to actually give a crap and lend a hand. I personally wouldn’t want to juggle a toddler and nurse a preemie and get the grocery shopping done all at the same time, but you do what you have to. I seriously doubt she’s doing it because it’s such a fun time and frees her up for “leisure” time. Full disclosure here: active-duty naval officer, mom of 3, and breastfeeding (privately).

  • Russell1969

    I thought we were past this kind of crap, there is nothing wrong wit breast feeding a child, I have never seen a woman out in public breast feeding that just flopped a breast out for everyone to see. It’s the most natural thing in the world. I wonder how many that complain were breast fed by their Moms?

  • guest

    I’m a woman, frankly the lack of discretion by some of these women is DISGUSTING. I’ve seen just what this woman did and I wanted to say something to the lady….I’m looking at food, I do not want to see your boobs hanging out with a kid latched onto them while your other one is running around willy nilly. I’m willing to bet If I walked into the commissary topless, I’d get kicked out, and probably arrested why didn’t this woman use a pump and bring a bottle if her kid needs to eat all the time.

    • grow up

      Not all moms can pump. Not all moms can afford a pump. Not all babies will take a bottle. Educate your bad self.

      • guest

        military pays well enough to afford a pump, if you can’t afford a pump you probably can’t afford the kid you popped out either and are leaving it to the rest of us to provide you with subsidies for your personal choice. Another novel idea how about utilizing DAYCARE while you go food shopping, or go on the weekend if your spouse is home to watch the child. There are a million different options that DON’T involve someone popping a boob out the top of their shirt and latching said child on them

  • Laura S

    I don’t think just because you have milk coming out of your breast gives you the right to walk around with it out for the world to see. I am a woman; I don’t want to see another woman’s breast. Sorry!

    • Kristen

      so I”m guessing you don’t go to the pool, the beach, VS??? Do you go out in public at all? I’m assuming you just sit at home all day because you see more cleavage and breasts in public than by a nursing mom.

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  • Jim

    I can’t believe all the whining, just let standards go, your beliefs out weigh mine, glad to give you the freedom to infringe on others, thats why I serve. Thanks Jerk Liberals!!!!

    • Fred the dog
  • Laurie

    I find nursing in an Ergo style carrier to be more discrete than a nursing cover. At least it doesn’t scream, “look at me nurse my baby everyone!” I’m pretty sure the mom wanted to keep just as covered as she could, but also needed to take care of her baby as soon as she could. I’ve been there… a hungry, crying baby in the commissary is no fun.

  • Fred the dog
  • OuttaPlace

    As a current military wife and a mother who breast fed 2 babies for combined almost 4yrs, I see can see the controversy here. I have fed both my babies in all sorts of places, cars, restaurants, ladies sitting rooms, airports & airplanes and even pubic swimming pools both in the US and Germany. I sometimes covered with a light blanket sometimes not. If done right nobody even notices whats going on unless the are directly in front of you looking right down your cleavage. Now for being in the commissary I would feel awkward there are so many single boys/men around, but if she was using a baby sling/wrap nobody should have even noticed, and I saw no mention of her whippin her boob out or her being very discreet. There are allot of very strict rules for being on base, what you can do and not do for enlisted and spouses alike, breast feeding should be allowed anywhere and people should be respectful and not stare mothers should be respectful and not whip it out but should show as little as possible with the need to cover unless she so desires. Americans are prudes. We have been socialized to see breasts as just sexual toys instead of the nutrition source for babies that they are.

  • danielle

    Breast feeding a baby is never indecent exposure. We scream because a mother is feeding her baby, yet we are all okay with movie posters with women being exposed just as much as a breast feeding mother. If you think it is so great- you go eat your meals in rooms that are designated for eating (no snacking on the go) and you wear a cover over your head while eating! This is absurd. It isn;t about the right of the mom or the rights of those around her. it is about the babies right to eat when hungry and to eat the way they were made to eat- via breast. I openly nurse in public, with no cover, and can assure you that nothing indecent is showing. I would dare some of the idiots commenting on this post to say something to me about nursing without a cover. Bottle feeding is not ‘normal’ or the way babies were intended to be fed. You guys are the biggest bunch of idiots ever. Before you expect someone else to do what you are suggesting, you try it for a bit. Go ahead, eat your meals in a bathroom or small cramped nursing room. Don’t eat if it isn’t the ‘appointed time’ or don’t you dare snack on the go. Plan your day to such a level that you never have to leave home and eat OR be sure to bring a blanket to put over your head so no one else should be objeted to your eating. A woman breastfeeding in public offends you? Your stupidity offends me.

  • Bev Olecki

    OMG really — is this such an issue? Breasts, whether on a male or female are not considered sexual organs and thus do NOT need to be covered! A man can walk down the street with his shirt off and believe it or not, so can a woman! If you are at the beach, the girls can take their tops off without infringing on any laws. There are certain places where “policies” are in effect and you may have to abide by them, but let’s get this straight folks — breasts have a purpose and it is not solely for guys pleasure. They provide nourishment to their offspring and if the ‘men’ in charge would man-up, they would be able to realize there is nothing wrong, dirty, secretive or sexual about breat-feeding a child. Yes, I know, there are women out there who have no modesty for this privilege and just flop it out there as well as boys who can’t help but ogle, but they are the minority and should not be the ones dictating policy.

  • Barbara

    I am a women, I wish women would have more privacy. I hate looking at a women breast feeding her baby. They are showing to much anatomy.

    Thanks,

    B.Btt

  • D.A.Veteran

    What is this, Breast feeding unbecoming to a mother? Drill instructors, get out your 341s. But seriously, as long as the mother is discrete, there should be no problem. Mothers know how to be discrete. I’ve sat next to breast feeding mothers and had no idea that had a kid latched on. Its called rule of common sense. Before all this “lets be sensitive to others” attitude, there never was a problem. All this political correctness crapola has made panzies of us all. Now, we are attacking mothers. I bet those Base Commander’s Mothers would have a lot to say to them on this issue and it wouldn’t be in agreement with these stupid policies. Again, common sense is the key to life. Use it, live it. Enough said. Got milk?

  • Nathan

    It is sad that people have such a problem with something so natural. A basic instinct. It’s sad that people have such a problem with nudity. Grow up. Move out of the colonial period. I remember my first time in Europe. I was shocked to see to big breast covering a huge window on a pharmacy store. It did not bother me, but I did not expect to see that. I started thinking about how cool these people where, but it made me think about my own perceptions. I felt really stupid and immature. I have since learned that it is just a human body, and everyone has one. No need to make a big deal about seeing some breast.

  • kathy

    I am the mother of Tamara and what I want every one to know is that Tamara is 6ft 1inc tall I am 5ft 9inc and I had to stand on my toes to even see what my grandson was doing, so all you complainers need to grow up! or clean out your dirty minds. I seen young girls on the base when visiting showing off more than I wanted to see, my grandmother always said people that live in glass houses don’t throw stones. look at your own life before you talk shit about my daughter.