How a Psychic Made my MilLife Easier


Last month I visited a psychic. No, I didn’t call 1-800-PSYCHIC or randomly walk into a hole in the wall with a picture on the window of a gypsy rubbing a crystal ball. A friend of mine found a medium who works out of her home and suggested I give her a try.

Why not?

I’ve never given much thought one way or another about clairvoyance. I’ve always figured the world of psychics was full of fakers who were just really good at asking the right questions and generating vague “visions” that could apply to just about anyone. And I figured somewhere hidden within that pool of charlatans lived a handful of legit psychics, people who truly possess the ability to see into the future. So I went into my psychic session with an open mind, figuring I’d know pretty early on which group of psychic this woman belonged in.

Within minutes of sitting down, I was mesmerized. She hadn’t even flipped a single tarot card, and she knew things about me that no stranger could have known. She knew parts of my past. She knew about issues I was currently focused on. She knew about my fears. She knew about my family and specific attributes of those family members. And yes, she knew my future.

But about halfway through the reading, I wondered, “Do I really want to know my future? And how is that potential knowledge going to affect decisions I make from now on?”

I’m typically a pretty rational person, so I’m well aware of how silly it sounds to base any major life decisions on the visions of a woman with a deck of cards who just pocketed a wad of my cash. But as she told me what I should expect in my near future, I couldn’t help but believe her. Her visions reassured me. I wasn’t so thrilled about some of them. But most of them reassured me that I was following a path I was destined to travel.

Now, a couple weeks later, I find myself trying to make decisions that will keep me on that path. I’m not 100 percent convinced this woman is capable of accurately seeing my future, but I like her version of it. So why not take steps to make it happen?

Maybe we need to be reassured that a particular future is possible in order to facilitate positive changes in our lives. Maybe I would have spent less time worrying if a psychic had told me my husband would come home unharmed from his deployments. Maybe I would have been more open-minded about an overseas PCS if a psychic had told me I would love living in Japan so much I wouldn’t want to leave. Maybe I would have pursued a different career path earlier in my adult life if a psychic had told me I’d end up with the cool job that I have. (I certainly would have spent a whole lot less time filling out job applications.)

For all I know, not a single thing that woman saw in the tarot cards will actually happen and her fortune telling is as accurate as a Magic 8 Ball. But even if all she offered me was a false confidence of a future that really wasn’t meant to be, I realized that carving out the future I want and being the person I want to be isn’t going to magically happen just because I shuffled a deck of tarot cards three times instead of four. I need to make that happen with or without the psychic’s predictions.

Do you think a visit to a psychic could change your perspective on your future? What would you want a psychic to see in your future?

About the Author

Heather Sweeney
Heather Sweeney is an Associate Editor at, former Navy wife, mother of two, blogger, and avid runner. She’s the blogger formerly known as Wife on the Roller Coaster and still checks in every now and then at her blog Riding the Roller Coaster.
  • jacey_eckhart

    I don’t know if I would want to know my future. I like things the way they are right now. I like the magical thought that things will just keep going on without any speed bumps… if!

  • jenschwab

    I believe in asking for a vision, and have done that of God on a few occasions. Sometimes, you need to know what far off point you’re headed towards, and God has been faithful to show that to me when I needed it. And then there are plenty of times when he asks me to just take things one step at a time and trust that it’s a good path. That’s frustrating, but I have found that whatever path God calls me to follow, whether it be with a map or a glow stick, that it’s a good one.

  • I think what people need to realize is that what most psychics (of any credibility) are telling you IS NOT written in stone-what they are conveying to you is what is likely to be if you continue on the current life path with the current actions, thought processes, attitudes, etc. The big take-away from this is that you have power over your future, your fate, many of your life’s outcomes. If a psychic tells you that, if you continue doing life as you do it now, course of action “A” will be the future. If, however, you change your attitudes and courses of action, you can change the future for yourself. Or, as in the case of the author who WANTS the future envisioned by the psychic, she can CHOOSE to continue taking current measures to bring that future to fruition. Yes, psychics can see other things sometimes (death, loss of income, etc) but those are things that are not our whole lives. The big picture of our lives is more than just someone dying (or the “death” of a job) … the big picture of our lives is family, friends, career, love, society, spirituality for some, doing for others, receiving from others, school, daily choices, nature, our pets, exercise (or not)… the point is that the psychic is only glimpsing into a few pieces of the puzzle of the entire big picture of our lives. And any psychic worth their words isn’t trying to spell out your entire life or future as if it’s written in stone.

    • Deborah

      Wow! That is such a wise response. You are so right. Keeping things in perspective

  • Kevin Y.

    You’re an idiot.

  • Noisycricket67

    Yes of course and if i said i believe in Bigfoot,.. then these same people say,.. Im crazy right! Your all retarded,…If i Psychics were REAL, why dont they stop harmful things before they happen not after,…think about it DUMMIES!!

  • MrsD

    Garth Brooks sang it far better than I could ever say it:
    For a moment all the world was right
    How could I have known you’d ever say goodbye
    And now I’m glad I didn’t know
    The way it all would end the way it all would go
    Our lives are better left to chance I could have missed the pain
    But I’d of had to miss the dance

  • Rosalee

    Just want to complement for the all the dufus articles it offers in SPOUSE Buzz
    I just marvel at how the wives have done it for years without this informative forum

  • One of the things that psychics are good at is providing an outside perspective. An experienced psychic is first and foremost an excellent “people-reader”. It’s not about magic or anything weird like that, and the truth is that most psychics don’t actually “predict the future”. I explain it like this: You’re walking along a certain path and you can see all around you, but I can see you and where you are in relation to the map. So I can tell you, “If you keep going this way, you’re going to wind up in Miami,” or, “If you make this turn, you’ll end up going to Dallas.” You might ask me what you need to do to make it to Sacramento, and looking at the map, I can tell you which road to take to get there. But YOU are the one who has to take those steps.

    A good psychic reading can be a good pick-me-up. If she’s wrong, she may be laughably wrong, and it’ll still be a fun afternoon. If she’s right, it may be goosebumps freaky, but it’ll be fun. And there are GREAT psychics and not-so-good psychics; you never know what you’re going to get. But a good psychic can provide a sympathetic presence, a comforting hand, or a motivational word, so if you find a good one, hang onto him or her! :)

    (And if you’re naturally intuitive yourself, honing those psychic skills can make a great portable career for a military spouse! I’ve been a military spouse and professional psychic for years!)

  • Dolores

    It is always good to hear a story when someone found good in a psychic reading. Too many people want to judge and dismiss psychics, so it is always refreshing when a good story is told.