Military Wife Quote: Caring for Myself is an Act of Survival

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I was browsing on Pinterest last week when I saw a quote that stopped me in my tracks and allowed me to think about how many times I flt guilty about caring for myself. Whether you are a mother, wife, MilSpouse or caregiver this statement couldn’t ring more true.

“I have come to believe that caring for myself is not self-indulgent. Caring for myself is an act of survival.” – Audre Lorde

I have been a caregiver for my wounded husband since 2006 and before that I was a MilSpouse waiting on his return from war. I was going to college, working and holding down our 6. Where was the time to care for me?

Why do we feel that caring for ourselves is self-indulgent? How can we take care of EVERYTHING if we don’t take care of ourselves?

I have finally arrived at a point where I will take care of myself and not feel guilty. I have challenged myself this year to do all the things I have put on the back burner for myself because then I can survive.

In order to survive we must go to counseling to manage our stressors, we must go to the Doctor when something out of the norm pops up or we are sick. By neglecting these things are we are doing a disservice to ourselves.

Stop neglecting yourself the basic necessities of life and even throw in some fun things just for you. Life can be put on hold temporarily while you do what you need to do for yourself. It IS an act of survival.

Cheryl Gansner is the wife of a wounded soldier. In her words: “LIfe has been a series of ups and downs. I have waited on him to return from war, learned how to accept our new normal after injuries, processed grief, and made some of the most amazing friends because of our tragedy. Our story is one of love, loss, hope and perseverance.” Cheryl is the Program Coordinator for Operation Homefront’s Heart of Valor program.

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  • I saw that quote too and had written it down for myself. Thank you for thinking to post it here. All I have left to say is AMEN!

  • Jackie Walker

    I am currently in a much confused state… When I married my husband in August 1972 as a young girl not knowing what the future held for us .. Then in Dec. 1927 I laid him to rest 7 months to day we married … I was under the asumpttion that I was then granted full Survivor benifets.. As off Late I Have found out I have very little benefits at all.. I do get my check and without that I could not survive at all.. But as far as medical or dental benefits I have none … Also I dont know if I will recieve any burial benefits either ….I am very upset and dont understand what happened to my so called benifits as a widow of a Army soldier5… Can I get some help here ??