New Year, New Military You


It wouldn’t be the days leading up to New Years without some cliches. After all, New Years is the perfect time to get a head start on being in the best shape ever, or reading that book you’ve been putting off for a decade (anyone else planning to finally read Anna Karinina?) or do that other hill of things you’ve wanted to get around to for oh-so-long … right?

But instead of all those normal things, this year I’m going to set-up a few military resolutions. They probably won’t revolutionize my life or lead to a skinnier me. But maybe they’ll make me an ounce or two more happy with the life I’ve chosen while being a military spouse — and maybe, just maybe, they’ll help someone else feel the same.

Join in my three military life resolutions, won’t you?

I resolve to serve. We’re always saying that military spouses serve, too — but what if we actually lived like that? What if, instead of approaching the FRG as a chore (or, worse, as a way to show off), we looked at it as our own brand of service? Doing so means I won’t get offended when they don’t want or need my help, or when someone else thinks they can do a better job. I’m just here to serve. It’s worth a shot.

I resolve to roll with it. Oh we’re PCSing to Germany? In a week? OK then. Oh, you’re deploying? Tomorrow? Got it. Because I’m rolling with it (or at least trying to!). All of 2012 was jam-packed with things I had to roll with. Sometimes I rolled better than others. Having a baby alone = good. Deployment falling through = bad. Maybe that stuff will have been be good practice for graceful rolling in 2013.

I resolve to listen. One of my favorite things about military life is the number of people I have the chance to befriend who, had I just stayed in my normal-pre-Army-Amy-circles, I would never have encountered. On the surface we have nothing in common. But if I just take 10 minutes I can see that these are the people who can teach me more than anyone else. The problem? I talk too much. And so this year I’m going to make a point to listen instead of talk  — and maybe they can teach me something I never would’ve expected.


What are your resolutions for 2013?

About the Author

Amy Bushatz
Amy is the editor in chief of’s spouse and family blog A journalist by trade, Amy also covers spouse and family news for where she is the managing editor of spouse and family content. An Army wife and mother of two, Amy has been featured as a subject matter expert on, NPR, Fox News, NBC, CBS, ABC and BBC as well as in the New York Times, Wall Street Journal and Washington Post. Follow her on twitter @amybushatz.
  • jenschwab

    I like it. Great resolutions – good inspiration! -Thanks!

  • Rquick

    These are great!