Military Wife Quote: Done Is Better Than Perfect

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Something’s gotta give during deployment. No lie.  No exaggeration. No one person can do everything that a service member and spouse manage to do together when they are home.  We spouses all know that, but we forget to automatically lower our standards when deployment begins.  Then drive ourselves crazy.

That’s why “Done is better than perfect” is the military wife quote I always post up during deployment.  It reminds me that everything is not going to be up to the level of perfection I call normal when my husband is home.  The important thing is to get everything to a reasonable level of completion.  Cold cereal sometimes means that dinner is done.   A mowed lawn is done enough–edging can wait until next month.  Three papers fished out of a backpack and signed should be considered done–the teacher will send another form if I missed one.

It doesn’t mean that my perfection-lovin’ heart doesn’t cringe from time to time.  But the reality of deployment means that done is better than perfect.  And perfect can wait until my husband is all the way home.

About the Author

Jacey Eckhart
Jacey Eckhart is the former Director of Spouse and Family Programs for Since 1996, Eckhart’s take on military families has been featured in her syndicated column, her book The Homefront Club, and her award winning CDs These Boots and I Married a Spartan?? Most recently she has been featured as a military family subject matter expert on NBC Dateline, CBS morning news, CNN, NPR and the New York Times. Eckhart is an Air Force brat, a Navy wife and an Army mom. Find her at