Military Wife Quote: If You Can Find a Path …

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I secretly want an easy life.  I want my kids to go to Kindergarten in the same school district that they graduate from high school. I want to be so content that I never need to swallow my loneliness with mocha chip ice cream.  I want to go to bed every night  listening to my husband lock the house and shut off the lights like a nice civilian wifey does.  Marrying into the military means that kind of ease is never going to happen to me.

And that’s OK.  Frank A. Clark says, “If you can find a path with no obstacles, it probably doesn’t lead anywhere.”

Military life relentlessly teaches me that this is true. My life path is full of obstacles that convince me that whatever it is that I want (to finish my master’s, work full time, see my husband in my own bed) is just too hard, too painful, too problematic to endure.  If this path is so much trouble, then it isn’t worth it, right?

Oh, wrong.  Of course wrong.  Running into obstacles pretty much means that you are on the path to something good.  So I just follow the lead of so many other military spouses.  I  keep finding ways around those obstacles that pop up between me and what I want.  Because if you love someone in uniform, you learn that obstacles in military life aren’t stop signs.  They are mile markers on the road to a meaningful destination.

About the Author

Jacey Eckhart
Jacey Eckhart is the former Director of Spouse and Family Programs for Since 1996, Eckhart’s take on military families has been featured in her syndicated column, her book The Homefront Club, and her award winning CDs These Boots and I Married a Spartan?? Most recently she has been featured as a military family subject matter expert on NBC Dateline, CBS morning news, CNN, NPR and the New York Times. Eckhart is an Air Force brat, a Navy wife and an Army mom. Find her at
  • Heidi

    Word! A life that is easy is not a life worth having. We sure do learn to appreciate the good, don’t we!

  • Dana Grigsby

    I’ll add to that sentiment, anything worth having is worth working for, what doesn’t kill us makes us stronger, and Frost’s words, “…two roads diverged in a wood, and I, I took the one less traveled by, and that has made all the difference.” Practically speaking though, our experiences as military spouses ARE what WE make of them. The saying on one of those cheesy inspirational posters, “your attitude will determine your altitude,” still rings true. When we hit a snag in the normally-smooth-running-system-of-our-day-for-US, whine out loud to yourself for five minutes and then move on. We are nothing if not resilient.

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