Embrace The Suck: Military Wife Quote

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“Accept failure. Enjoy it even. Embrace the suck, for the suck is part of the process,” wrote AJ Jacobs in Real Simple magazine this month.

Jacobs may have been writing about being more creative in your life, but he really came up with a great military wife quote.  In his article, Jacobs noted that Bach wrote some … uh … shoddy concertos. Picasso created more than 50,000 paintings and a lot of them, well … sucked. That isn’t a bad thing, because embracing the suck takes up a huge part of a big creative life.

The same is true for the life of a military spouse.  A lot of the time we gotta EMBRACE THE SUCK because, really, the suck is part of our process.  Sometimes all three kids are gonna be crying at the same time. Sometimes you really are gonna miss that deadline at work. Sometimes you are gonna choose to do the ballet class and the honor society and offer to pick up your husband so he can get his car before the shop closes and … you are gonna fail.

Because that is all part of the process of a big creative military life. Sometimes you succeed. Sometimes it is your turn to EMBRACE THE SUCK. Either way it is all part of the process and you are doing just fine. Trust me.

Navy wife Jacey Eckhart is Editor of SpouseBuzz and author of I Married a Spartan??  The Care and Feeding of Your Military Marriage available on iTunes, Amazon, and on www.jaceyeckhart.com.

About the Author

Jacey Eckhart
Jacey Eckhart is the former Director of Spouse and Family Programs for Military.com. Since 1996, Eckhart’s take on military families has been featured in her syndicated column, her book The Homefront Club, and her award winning CDs These Boots and I Married a Spartan?? Most recently she has been featured as a military family subject matter expert on NBC Dateline, CBS morning news, CNN, NPR and the New York Times. Eckhart is an Air Force brat, a Navy wife and an Army mom. Find her at JaceyEckhart.net.
  • SemperSteen

    This is so true. When we moved to our first duty station I took a L.I.N.K.S. class on base and dubbed it “Welcome to the Suck: Spouse Edition.” Sometimes things are going to be out of your control and all you can really do is say “f*** it” and try to find the humor in it.

  • Tjaime

    Sure, this is definitely true. But, AJ Jacobs didn’t come up with this quote. He might have been watching the movie “Beastly” starring Vanessa Hudgens when he simply reapplied the concept to life in general. So, thanks to the writers of that movie for the quote, to Mary Kate Olsen for reading the lines so well, and to Jacobs for the simple reminder.

  • LifeintheArmy

    Embrace the Suck has been around the Military for a long time…it’s not anything new for Servicemembers or Spouses.

    • LifeintheArmy

      The term I mean…

    • tigr19

      That must be an Army term…I’ve been in and around the military since 1966 and have never heard the term “Embrace the Suck”. On the contrary … no service member I know would even utter the words since it has far nor reaching issues in especially today’s world. … I was Marine Corps … depatment of the Navy.. er,… that would be the “Men’s” department!