When it comes to being a military spouse, it’s a woman’s world. Not that there aren’t also male spouses — but just like being a woman in old boy’s club workplace, being married to a female service member can be very challenging. Support programs tend to be geared towards women, if only because they are the bulk of the users. In 2009 males made up only 6.9 percent of all spouses across the services.
John Avelis is a Navy spouse and stay at home dad stationed in Japan whose deployed wife is an O-4. We talked to John recently about what it’s like to be a man surrounded by women — and where he goes for support when the rest of the spouses are getting their nails done.