The Milspouse Learning Curve: From Green to Seasoned


Milspousedom, like anything else, is a learning process. Upon marrying a member of the military, many of us found ourselves thrust into this strange, foreign world of acronyms, customs, unconventional work schedules and walled compounds. If you’re like me, the first lesson you learned was that an ID card is very, very valuable (although some of us have been known to abuse the privilege). We quickly learn that the ID card is our key to shopping, access, medical care and discounts. Unfortunately for me, the rest of the lessons didn’t come this easily.

When I first married my husband, I had no idea how the “real Army” worked because for the first nine months or so, my husband was attending schools. After we moved to our first “real” duty station, it wasn’t long before my husband was out in the field honing his artillery skills. Silly me, I didn’t realize that field exercises meant my husband would be spending nights away from home. I thought that perhaps my husband would train during the day, come home in the evening and we’d sit down to a lovely dinner and discuss how our respective days shook out.

After my husband’s first field exercise, I was talking with a friend on the phone and I mentioned that my husband had been away for a couple of nights “practicing” but that he was now home. I hung the phone up, noticed my husband had a strange expression on his face and asked, “What is it?”

“Andi, we don’t “practice,” we “train.”


I’ve come a long way, baby…..

Do you remember anything you said or did as a new milspouse which makes you laugh today?

About the Author


Andi is married to an active-duty soldier and is the founder and former editor of SpouseBUZZ.

She is the founder of the Annual MilBlog Conference. The MilBlog Conference is the premiere event of the year for military bloggers. President George W. Bush, U.S. Representative Adam Smith, GEN David Petraeus, LTG Mike Oates, LTG William Caldwell, RADM Mark Fox, MG Kevin Bergner, MG David Hogg and The Honorable Pete Geren have addressed previous conferences.

While living in Washington, DC, Andi was the Ambassador to Walter Reed Army Medical Center for Sew Much Comfort, a non-profit organization which makes and delivers, free of charge, special adaptive clothing for wounded service members. Andi has worked with several non-profits to help our wounded heroes and their families. She finds that work to be the most rewarding and meaningful of all.

Andi strives to find humor in the good, bad and ugly of life and is a firm believer that laughter has the ability to cure most ills.

  • DL sly

    “I do”?