What to Wear

HS-5 Homecoming

Today’s subject is totally frivolous, yet consumes so much energy: What to wear when your spouse is coming home? I really thought that we had covered this here at SpouseBUZZ, but I can’t find it in the archives, so there won’t be any links to other people’s crazy homecoming wardrobe mishaps.

My husband is coming home sometime soon and I was thinking that I should probably figure out what I’m going to wear. I’ve never been much of an outfit planner – last deployment, I just grabbed a pair of pants and a t-shirt. Of course, I had just had a baby, so not much fit, plus I was seriously worried about putting all those kids in something cute.

There are multiple things to consider. I’m not the kind of person who would wear something over-the-top to homecoming, so that is out. We’ve got a four hour drive each way, so comfort is important. Also, we have about 33 inches of snow at our house. That should probably be a factor. No slinky sandals for me!

What kinds of things have you worn to homecomings? I’d love to hear!

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  • Robby618

    My BDU’s so I could not be noticed until the last minute, kind of sneaky though, huh.

  • airforcewife

    Just don’t wear knee boots with high heels if you expect to be running to him at any point.
    You’re more graceful than I, though, so it might have a better outcome for you.
    I thought you looked super duper awesome in that outfit you wore for SB Live in Pendleton, though.

  • mollie

    I always try to wear something my husband has seen me in before. He finds it comforting if I wear the clothes I’m wearing in one of the pictures he has of us.

  • Apryl

    I wore a t-shirt and jeans. Granted it was 108 outside. LOL

  • megan

    I would say a nice pair of jeans with a cute top and comfy and cute shoes. Keep it simple.

  • Sarah

    I say something relatively comfy. Last deployment, we got called in to the unit urgently, saying they were on a bus on their way. Six hours later, we’re all still sitting there on picnic table benches waiting. I was regretting wearing a skirt by then…

  • Simple, comfortable and familiar. The last thing you need to do is worry about your outfit staying put and fidgeting. Plus he knows its cold and the drive and the snow.

  • Newbie

    When he came home for his R&R after 8 mo., I wore my favorite jeans and top. Something I had worn before and that I felt great in. I wanted him to see me as he remembered and in something he liked.

  • kirsten

    get fitted for a pretty bra. regardless of what’s on top of it (I agree with comfy and familiar and easy to run/slog through snow in) you’ll feel great from the foundation up.

  • Heather

    I love that so many people said something familiar to him. Great Idea! Although I ditto the pretty underthings… thats a requirement! Besides, it makes you feel sexy and confident to have nice things under your clothes!

  • amberbrumm

    I don’t really have anything to add about clothing, but whenever my husband comes back from a patrol I try to change something drastic to see if he can find me right away as he is coming off the submarine. It’s fun. My hair is a little bit shorter than shoulder length, so I bought one of those Jessica Simpson hair extensions, the really super long one. I looked completely different, he had to do a double take that time! hehe

    • Guest

      I thought about doing something similar this homecoming!

  • The best thing about living in CA, is that the weather is (almost) always pretty nice, so I like to wear cute little sundresses. Obviously, this is not an option everywhere!

  • angela

    Just make sure you are wearing enough clothes. When we went to pick my husband up I had to sheild my kid’s eyes a few times. I can’t believe the women that had it all hanging out everywhere. We don’t want to see all that:)

  • Beth

    I am a big fan of making my own shirts with iron on paper. When my husband came home last month I had a shirt and a sweatshirt I made. I get my ideas off of cafepress. It is SO much cheaper and very easy to do. Just go to Walmart and buy yourself the shirt you want and then put your own design on it!

  • Hello
    I think a t-shirt and jeans are all time good.Comfortable cloths are more important and its good for every one.Thank you..

  • Jessie

    I agree with the idea of a nice bra. I always feel prettier if I have a sexy bra on. I don’t know why, but it helps me.
    On top of that I’d go with your favorite shirt and comfy pants for the drive.
    I like to wear a skirt (I’m used to them so being in one all day doesn’t bother me) for homecoming and a dressy shirt–flirty but comfortable for the unpredictable wait times. This time of year I wear my Navy peacoat and matching hat/scarf/gloves (got a cute set for a good price at Target).

  • Michelle

    Back when my partner graduated from basic training I made a “I <3 Pvt. (last name)" shirt. He loved it and thought it was hilarious. Now it has become a tradition for us, I make a new one for every long training and will when he gets back from this deployment.

  • Julianne

    last deployment, i had just had a baby so I was rocking a tshirt and a pair of jeans as well…
    This time I’m thinking a sundress because my husband loves sundresses. But we’re only half way through the deployment, so i still have time to change my mind a few times. Though for R&R, i plan on wearing jeans, heels, and a cute top.
    And i agree, sexy bras help. lol. And i let my husband choose, i give him color choices and he usually knows what it looks like, so he know whats underneath and what to look forward to when we get home :)

  • Alicia

    My husband LOVES skirts and dresses, so it helps that I love to wear them. If there’s a casual enough dress that your man has taken an appreciative note of before, I would recommend that. I’m a fan of dressing up for someone or something, and I think that you should look as nice as time permits when your man returns – hair done, makeup on, shoes that don’t lace, and a top that can’t be called a “t-shirt”. And wearing his favorite perfume. Overall, I guess your scent will probably be the only memory that will last him past that day!

  • Kristina

    When my husband came home in December, I wore slacks and a nice sweater since it was in the 40s that morning. The temperature kept rising, so by the time he got to base in the late afternoon, I was sweating like a pig! I wanted to look nice but by the time I was in his arms, I just felt miserable.
    Just go with comfortable clothes, and if it’s supposed to be cold, dress in layers!

  • Yolanda

    These are some good suggestions. My hubby is coming home in April and I was wondering what to wear. I wore jeans and a shirt the last time he came home from a deployment. I think I will wear the same. I have increased my gym time. LOL!!

  • Sarah

    All my life my family has been meeting those stupid planes on the flight line… and even back in the day when we didnt know if he’d be on the plane we’d show up in dresses (we kept them in the car!). These days, I try to meet my guy in a dress that hasnt seen. He likes the suprise, and I stand out from all the jeans and tee-shirts around us.

  • Heidi soon-to-be-Lon

    I am always put together head to toe with a little black dress and heels for his homecomings. It has become our tradition. He is coming home from WY (where he has been training for a month), and when I pick him up I’ll be in my dress waiting with butterflies in my tummy;)

  • orit

    dress sexy! my husband came home 2 weeks ago and i wanted to look good for him. your man is coming home! i’m happy for you.

  • halcat

    I think there’s a happy medium between dressing up and dressing for comfort. Jeans are fine, but hopefully a nice dark wash that you can dress up a little with a cute ballet flat or a low heel. A trouser jean is a nice alternative to the standard fare, and with a straight wide leg they’re very flattering.
    I wouldn’t wear a t-shirt because I feel like it’s a special occasion, but a pretty camisole with a cardigan is just as comfortable.
    Anyway, all the primping is just to give me something to do so I don’t run mad waiting!

  • EODixon

    I wore an average kind of tank top and some jeans. I’d been working out for the previous three months and wanted to show off my “guns” at the first opportunity. And, boy, did he notice!!! :-)

  • StephB

    For my husband’s first homecoming I had NO idea what to expect. I just wore a nice pair of jeans, a grey tee shirt, and a grey and white striped hoodie. I didn’t feel under-dressed because the other spouses were all wearing pretty much the same thing- hoodies or sweatshirts and jeans. I’d advise bringing a coat unless it’s the dead of summer. I figured October at Fort Bliss wouldn’t be that cold (I wasn’t living with my husband at the time cause I was finishing college, and it was my first trip out there.) It ended up being quite chilly in the morning when we watched their plane land and I wished I’d brought a coat. As the day wore on it got warmer though, so no big deal.