Hey! You! New around here?

Every so often, we learn of a new wave of folks that have found SpouseBUZZ and are making those first, tentative steps into our corner of the blogosphere.  You've been around probably and seen many of the other wonderful and informative blogs that while they piqued your interest, just maybe missed the mark.

Please allow me to say to you, Welcome!  As a military spouse, this is your place to listen to, and read about, and relate with other spouses of military members from all over the place.  Here you'll soon see just how we transcend Service, rank, branch, and yes, gender.  This is your place to come together and relate your experiences with others as who knows?, you just may hold the key to someone else's brighter future.  Laugh with us, cry with us, but most importantly, stay the course with us, for the authors will keep it humming, but it's you that makes it worthwhile for all of us. 

Some of you see your turn "in the bucket" being less than 60 days away.  Hug your mate and be with them like never before until they step to their "chalk," then come back to see us.  We'll be here to keep you company until they return.

Welcome to the BUZZ; and know that all of our prayers are with each of you who are about to send your mate into harm's way.  With hat-in-hand, I'm Over & Out, MaintenanceToadOne

Comments

[Ambone]

I am new around here. I was nosing around for any info/support groups for women like me. this is the closest I have found so far... I am not a wife of an active military man. I am a girlfriend of an Iraq War Veteran. I did not know him when he was active. I met him through my brother who is also an Iraq War Veteran who worked at the VA when they became best friends. I have become very smpathetic and understanding of the vet who suffers from PTSD. My boyfriend has symptoms that effect his daily life, and in turn effect me. I am thirsty for any knowledge or experience of others. I am happy I found SPOUSE BUZZ and look forward to making new friends!

[Samantha Allen]

My name is Samantha Allen and I am a veteran who now supports our Troops and their families through my music!

OCEANS BETWEEN US is a song that a number of Troops in Baghdad and Balad have been so wonderful about sharing with their spouses and girlfriends, that we had to send out over 500 CDs to them and their loved ones!

It was written for me while my own husband was in Iraq and has become somehwat of a theme song for some! You can hear it at my website at www.samanthaallenonline.com and it is availabloe for download for 99 cents: Beth from Soldier's Angels and I spoke this afternoon about my being a featured artist for JULY as the full CD comes out mid June,and she suggested that I also contact you all--- I would GREATLY appreciate any support you could give me so we can continue to share this song with servicemembers and their families--- the funds for the single sold online help us supply more free CDs for our Troops!!

Thanks so much and please feel free to contact me with any questions!
Samantha

[Cindy Behefield]

I am a widow of an soldier that was in the Army band for 19 yrs. He was one year from retiring and was killed in a car accident in 2001. It has been an adjustment for me getting back into civilian life. I miss the military life. Like I said I was a miltary wife for 19 yrs. After my husband was killed, I became a single mother to 2 teenagers and I really had a hard time emotionally. It has been 7 years since my husband's death and I have not remarried. I feel myself missing the military life. If I remarry, I lose all my benefits and my link with the military. There was no FRG or support group for me after losing my husband. We were in TN and he was in GA for his last year or what we thought was going to be his last year in the military. Has anyone else been through this?

[Kari]

I am fairly new to the military lifestyle. And find it extremely difficult. The fact that my husbandandI don't live together and have not before or after marriage does not help. Sometimes I feel very alone, my husband likes to think he knows how I should be feeling about everything and what is normal, however he has no clue. I have questions, problems and do not know where or how to turn to fix any of them. I have only been married for two years, and almost divorced after the first deployment. Now i face the same thing with another deployment coming up and my husband telling me we are to different and doesn't think this will work. Isnt that what life is about challenges, why would you want to be with someone that is just like you. Diveristy can be a great thing. Obvisouly we are different, we came from two diferent backgrounds, we were raised differently. I have four kids from a previous marriage, and he is constantly telling me how bad they are, how lazy they are, how undiscaplined they are, and on and on. But they are good kids and act no different from any other children of there ages.. He also has no comparison but his own childhood, having never been around children of any age till he met mine. My kids love him and it breaks my heart he thinks of them like that. I thnk he is jealous ofmy relationship with my kids, because he never had that with his parents, he hated his childhood and his parents to this day. I love him, but he is hard to deal with at times. He thinks his way is the way everyone should think, if I disagree with anything, I am arguing, if Itry to expalin anything he says I am making excuses. He can be very hurtful without even knowing it. With that way of thinking everytime I do or say it is wrong. I don't know how to get passed this, I would love to see him get some good counciling, but he doesn't think he has any problems. I go once a week. He also has a drinking problem. I know this sounds like I am bashing, but I jsut want advice help a shoulder.

[Don]

Hello,
I saw that this group exists while surfing Fox 13's website. I'm presently deployed as a contractor with the military and I think it's great that you all get together and support each other. I was wondering if that circle of support could include another, particularly my wife, Melanee.
We live in Liberty, UT (Hill AFB is closest) and she has been a real trooper with all the projects (roofing, landscaping, driveway paving), school interactions (our 15 yo son just passed 9th grade), and single-parent requirements associated with the aforementioned 15 yo. I know she feels lost and lonely and want to know if there are any groups in that area that could be suggested for her to interact with. I know that she can't use the Family Support Center (she can't get on base, etc.) but if there are any off-base activities maybe she could attend a couple and see that she's not alone.
If this is possible, I would like some contact information sent to me and I will send it to her.
Lastly, I want to thank all of your spouses for their duty and service. I'll look after the ones I can while I'm out here!
I can be contacted at headeye1@shutterseye.com.

Thanks again!
Don

[elizabeth jackson]

I need to find a military lawyer to get my ex husband of 24yrs and 6 mths to reinstate the SBP, because he got me to sign off on paperwork when he retired, stating he would find cheaper insurance, he did with USAA and now he has since changed the beneficiary. He swindled a dirty deal. I need help....

[ArmyDiamond]

Hello! I am brand new on here and a brand new Army wife! My husband has been deployed for 11 months now. We met before he deployed and talked a lot online while he was deployed. When he came home on leave we were together every minute he was home. He proposed on Tue, we got our marriage license on Wed and were married at the courthouse on Thur. After an awesome weekend at a nice hotel, his mother and I took him to the airport and he left to go back to Kuwait. :( We were married June 11 and he is supposed to be home the end of Aug/beginning of Sep. I am in the process of selling all of my things and moving to his base, getting our new apartment ready and then waiting for him to come home to me. I am so proud of him and we talk everyday... sometimes 8 hours a day! I love him to death and couldn't imagine life without him. It's been a transition going from a civilian to a military spouse.. but I've loved every minute of it from getting my Military ID to going to the on base hospital for the first time... even thought it took 5 hours for me to see 1 doctor, get blood taken and get my perscriptions.. it was a fun experience! I have so many questions and concerns about military life. I miss my soldier so much but am being strong for him! We have a little over a month left until he comes home and I am so impatient. It feels like the time is in slow motion. I am having a hard time coping with him being away from me and get sad and lonley a lot. The only comfort I've found so far was reading the blogs on here and crying putting myself in those wives shoes. Thinking about the missed birthdays and holidays. That I'm going to have to do what I've been doing for the last month and half for a whole year... and just missing my husband. He and I both want to get me pregnant as soon as he gets back. I have wanted kids since I can remember and have worked in daycares and as a nanny my whole life. Almost everyone I tell we want to have children right away gets very defensive and says, no wait.. spend time with your husband before you have kids... travel and have fun. The thing is he will be deploying again within 12 - 15 months after he comes home. It might sound selfish but I think a baby would really help me get through being away from him for a whole year. I have talked with a few military spouses who got pregnant right away and they are so happy they did. What experiences have you all had??

Thank you!!