Blog It, Don’t Hog It

Some of my closest friends have become my closest friends as a result of a decision that I made almost three years ago. I decided to become a blogger. That decision changed my life. Literally. In ways that are too numerous to list.

At SpouseBUZZ, we love what we do – which is communicating with you on a daily basis. We laugh, we cry, but most importantly – we bond because of this blog.

Blog It, Don't Hog It: There's no secret to what we do here at SpouseBUZZ. We write about our experiences. It's really as simple as that, and anyone can do it. There is no milspouse territory that belongs to one or only a few, there is no market we want to corner. What we do have, though, are military spouses out there who are increasingly turning to non-traditional mediums for support, and the more options they have, the better off they are. The better off we, as a milspouse community, are. Blogs are a fantastic compliment to the physical support systems that you may have, and for those lacking a physical support system, or those of you who may have a dysfunctional one, you can seek virtual support. As we've found out here, it's surprisingly effective.

Blogging is not for everyone. Many of you prefer to simply read and comment, which is great. But for those who might be interested, I strongly urge you to consider starting your own blog and giving it a try. People blog for different reasons. Some to communicate information, some to get their thoughts down, some to social network. The reasons are as varied as our personalities.

For those of you with deployed spouses, blogging — and reading blogs — can be a great distraction from those disturbing thoughts that run through our minds when our spouses are far away in dangerous situations. I think this is why our new chat room and our radio shows are becoming more and more popular. Escapism is important, and sometimes necessary. So too, is the bonding experience that blogs, chat rooms and radio programs provide. AWTM says blogging is cheaper than therapy, and she's right.

I'm pretty sure that each of the bloggers here at SpouseBUZZ will tell you that the impact blogging has had on their lives is almost indescribable. In the coming days, we'll run a mini-series on blogging. If you have questions or points you would like to see us address, leave them in the comment section. We hope this will spur you to consider joining the blogging community and encouraging others to do so.

For now, I'd like to highlight a few military spouse blogs. Blogs of those who are frequent commenters or visitors to SpouseBUZZ. I know I'm going to miss some of your blogs/myspace pages, and if so, it's not a slight, but an oversight, so please add your URL of your blog in the comment section.

Pay these spouses a visit and poke around a bit:

She Who Waits

Non-essential Equipment

Wendy's Tiki Hut


Patti's Place

More Than an Army Wife

Butterfly Wife

Lemon Stand


Under the Sea

Proud Liberal Army Wife

In Training

Life of a Soldier's Wife

Household Six

Oh! That's Gonna Leave a Mark

The Cobwebs of My Mind

Nomad Librarian

In the Air Force Again

Patiently Waiting

My Life


Ms. Mo

The Story of My Life

Operation Marriage

Standing By

Operataion Life Transformed

Writing Military Mom – New

Slightly Salty – New

More on blogging to follow.

About the Author


Andi is married to an active-duty soldier and is the founder and former editor of SpouseBUZZ.

She is the founder of the Annual MilBlog Conference. The MilBlog Conference is the premiere event of the year for military bloggers. President George W. Bush, U.S. Representative Adam Smith, GEN David Petraeus, LTG Mike Oates, LTG William Caldwell, RADM Mark Fox, MG Kevin Bergner, MG David Hogg and The Honorable Pete Geren have addressed previous conferences.

While living in Washington, DC, Andi was the Ambassador to Walter Reed Army Medical Center for Sew Much Comfort, a non-profit organization which makes and delivers, free of charge, special adaptive clothing for wounded service members. Andi has worked with several non-profits to help our wounded heroes and their families. She finds that work to be the most rewarding and meaningful of all.

Andi strives to find humor in the good, bad and ugly of life and is a firm believer that laughter has the ability to cure most ills.

  • I’ll just ditto everything Andi said. Virtual support system – check. Get thoughts down, social network – check, check. Distraction – check. Therapy – check. Impact – CHECK. And can be done for no cost. I’ll have to check out some of those other blogs. Thanks for posting them.

  • liberal army wife

    Oh, it saved my limited sanity! and look at all the friends I’ve made. GBear and Andi have helped with the apartment hunt (yup, Kingstown here we come!) and when the oncoming train smashed my equilibrium into tiny little pieces, you guys were there and “figuratively” held my hands and let me scream! A blog lets me vent, safely, without getting my husband into trouble. A blog lets ME help someone else who is having problems, and lets me know I’m not alone in my feelings, doubts, anger, exhaustion and happiness, joy, dizzy anticipation.

  • Thanks for mentioning me, Andi, I’m flattered! For my 2 cents, these are 2 more also mil-spouse blogs that I like to read but didn’t see listed:

  • Sarah

    I’ve been bummed that I’ve had trouble making new friends at our new duty station…until I remembered that I take my internet friends with me everywhere I go! My husband calls them my “imaginary friends” as a joke, but really, they’re the most wonderful support system in the world.

  • Andi

    Absolutely right, Marine Wife. Thanks for reminding me of these two great ladies who often contribute to the discussion around here. I’ve added them.
    I know I’m missing some more links. We have so many great bloggers who visit and comment frequently. If I’ve left one of you off, please don’t take offense, my brain is on overload at the moment….

  • Oh course, now I feel like I’d better come up with something worth reading…

  • Thanks for the list..I have some new ones to check out…

  • How fun! I love the list of links!
    Blogging, for me, was a way to keep in touch with friends and family around the world. But the new bloggy friends and the cheap therapy has been a surprise bonus!

  • If you guys could address blogging anonymously vs “real name”, I think that would be a very helpful discussion for new bloggers. Choosing whether or not to hide your real name is one of the first big decisions in creating a blog.
    Marine Wife – Glad you chimed in with links to Stephanie and Non-Essential Equipment, they are favorites of mine as well. :)

  • Oh gosh, I feel like Steve Martin at the delivery of the new phone book! ;)
    Seriously though, thank you for the list Andi. I love checking out new blogs and I see a few not already on my list.
    Blogging for me started as a private outlet. After DH returned from his last deployment I decided to go public, get a URL and all that fun stuff. I was very pleasantly surprised to find so many other bloggers and such a wonderful system of support.
    Off to blog hop for a bit. :)

  • liberal army wife

    loquita – I use my acronym to keep my privacy and because some of my opinions are not welcomed by some military personnel and spouses. I prefer keeping myself anonymous. and it’s fun to see how many commenters or readers that I have because they have googled “liberal and Army and wife”…

  • Wow! Thank you for including me! I am a fairly new blogger. I started a blog when my favorite support message board closed down as a way to keep in touch with friends. I haven’t really figured out my nitch(is that a word?)yet. I do enjoy it, though. I am anxious to read all the blogs listed.

  • I started three blogs before I finally just kept one and kept on writing. Now I love it. It’s an easy way to meet new people and also a way for family and friends so far away to keep up.

  • Like Wendy, I started out just trying to keep in touch with family and friends while we were overseas. Finding other bloggers, especially milspouse bloggers was a big bonus.
    Loquita brings up a good point. Because of the way I started, I’m now in the process of trying to make mine more anonymous than it was previously. Can anyone say “headache” or “huge pain in the behind?”

  • Andi, you are BRILLIANT! Thank you so much for posting these milspouse blogs! I am enjoying reading them all. (And I’m a little intimidated to be amongst such great company)

  • I am honored to be listed with such awesome ladies. Thanks Andi.
    Loquita I started out as annonymous and just switched to my real name. I had been commenting awhile before I started blogging and I did not leave my blog url til just recently. Instead of trying to remember where I used my name or National Guard Wife I am only using Reasa now. My Hubby will say Hubby and he Kiddos will keep their alias.

  • Thank you for listing me! I am honored to be among all these great blogs, especially since I’m new to active duty military spouse-hood :)
    Regarding name use: I use my first name but not my last…and that’s residual paranoia from being slammed on the internet years ago before we were in the military. I also do not list my daughters’ or husband’s names on the internet.

  • I love blogging! And I do agree that it is cheaper than therapy, lol. It helps me get my feelings out without having to go postal on someone. :)

  • MO

    I’ve been blogging since 2002 and have met some of my best friends on LiveJournal. I also keep a sorta blog on my personal site. Mostly it’s what carepackages I sent my honey. I thought it would be nice to keep a list in case people need ideas that haven’t been covered to death.
    I can’t wait to dig into these blogs listed here :)

  • Great post, thanks! I see a bunch of new blogs for me to check out! I’ve lurked here for a while, but I’m very new at blogging myself. I would love to see trackbacks and pings addressed, I feel lost some times with all the technical bells and whistles! How about blogging “etiquette”?

  • Andi

    Dutchgirl – you’re right on track. We’ll be addressing all of your suggestions in our four part series that will begin next week. Stay tuned, and keep blogging…

  • Woohoo! Look, it’s me! Mahalo for adding me to your list!

  • Thanks for the mention…and it was great to see several of those blogs listed as some I frequent regularly! And I’ll be checking the others out too…AND, will add THEM to my military bloggers blogroll.
    I don’t often blog much about military, but I’m who I am. I blog for my family and friends, so names are not hidden. I do ask permission if I’m blogging about others who might not be “regulars” on my blog….

  • Although I’m no longer an active-duty spouse (my DH is retired), I still feel a very close connection, and enjoy reading SpouseBUZZ.
    I was also an active duty Navy JAG officer, and my fondest memories of my service are of helping other military families as a Legal Assistance attorney. My mini-blog, at… is a part of my site on financial matters for military families, .
    This is one small way I can contribute to thank all of you for YOUR service, and that of your spouses. Your spouses don’t get paid what they should for their service, and I’d like to do what I can to share tips to help you stretch that paycheck, get out of debt, and invest for a secure financial future. I know what it’s like to serve, and to support one who serves, and I thank you for your sacrifices.
    I would be honored if you would pay us a visit, have a look around, and send me your comments via my Contact page. I’d like the site to be a valuable resource for you, so please let me know what you’d like to see covered. Or share your tips for stretching that paycheck. All comments welcome.
    Thank you for all that you do. And please give your spouses a hug and a thank you from “all the rest of us.”

  • Andi – the More than an Army Wife is the link to the Patti’s Place as well…

  • Thank you for putting my blog on this list, and I’m looking forward to checking out some new ones!
    I was so happy to find Spousebuzz doing my husband’s first sub deployment. I’ve “met” some truly caring and wonderful people here :)

  • Andi –
    Thanks for the mention! I’m truly honored to be mentioned among the great list of other milspouse bloggers. The funny thing is I started mine to keep myself occupied while my husband was in Basic Training and that was almost 3 years ago.

  • NavyChiefSqueeze

    I’ve been wanting to start my own blog but I cannot think of a name!!! I am going to keep thinking though…

  • Just catching up on my blog reading – thanks for the mention! I look forward to the blogging discussions, too.

  • Oooh! Yay! I can’t believe I made the list! :D I should change the theme back to pink camo. ;) Thanks for the mention! :D
    I have to say that Spousebuzz was a much-needed support while Sweetie was away, and my blog was the perfect catharsis sometimes. I don’t know what I’d do without either! :)

  • WOW! thank you for the mention. I am blogging to share my experience and hopefully, some other war wounded caregivers will send me their entry to share as well. Thank you for noticing us and keep up the good work!

  • Don’t leave me out:-)) Stop by for a visit!

  • Really appreciate this post, Andi! They are all excellent blogs

  • awww – thanks for mentioning my “Operation Marriage” blog! I always forget that there are people who actually read my crazy thoughts! And thanks for the list of other blogs. I can’t wait to check them all out!

  • Tif

    How about mil blogs with a crafty spin?
    Thanks for showing others’ links! Can’t wait to peruse through them :)

  • I blog almost daily at A Soldier’s Mind, While the blog was initially intended to be the musings of an active duty Soldier, when Anthony asked for family members or other Soldiers to join in, I jumped on board, and we’ve broadened the horizons of our blog. I’m the spouse of a soon to be retired Soldier and also work on a military installation as a Victim Advocate. We try to cover all aspects of military life, from the deployed Soldiers to the families left at home.

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