Resonation Update

The other day when I posted about predeployment anxiety and stress, I had put up a link.  Well I decided to change the font, of the information and upon doing so I had deleted the link. 

Darn it anyway.

So here is the link to Five Stages of Deployment

Go over and take a look at the information.  There is a lot of great content in the link, and I have enjoyed the discussion and suggestions to one another.  You are all amazing!

Comments

[liberal army wife]

thanks for putting that back up.

LAW

[USMC SSGT wife]

Although I weep through reading this I thank you...I feel all these emotions (pre-deployment ) and yet my husband doesn't understand at all... our first time deployment........

[armywifetoddlermom]

Darling, I think we have all cried. And it is OK, I am sure he is feeling his own emotions about this too.

I hope you have sat down and had a chat about this...

The first time I sent my Husband to war was 1990. (yeah I am that old) And I did not have to do it again until 2003, and it was hard.

The good news is, those emotions you are feeling ARE NORMAL...

crying is ok...

just try and give yourslef some time to make this adjustment.

I agree with the ladies about empowering yourself.

Lets call them "deployment resolutions" instead of New Years resolutions. Do something you have always wanted to do, volunteer, make new friends.

He chose you because he knew you CAN DO this!!

[USMC SSGT wife]

thank you so much... I guess what's tough is issues that have always been there come up and I feel guilty arguing about them. He's still in predeployment training 600 miles away so our evening conversations can be tough sometimes,talking through the days events,kids, his training,finances, our still "TO Do list" he feels he doesn't have time for it yet I'm trying to help him get everything done ya know. Just tough....but I AM trying to focus on the positive...spouse buzz is great, other websites seem to trash talk which only makes things worse, thank you so much for your support.

[armywifetoddlermom]

USMC Wife,

You will make him proud I am sure!! Keep updating us.

None of us are experts, but most of us, have been there, done that, and do not have a t-shirt. I do not think any of us claim to be experts, but the readerss, and contributors have some great ideas!!

Keep TALKING!

[LAW]

oh those calls! I remember DH doing his "after action" calls... while he enjoyed his after bad mess hall food cigar, he'd call. And you could hear the other callers (there werent' that many good cell phone spots on base) We talked about the to do list,and plans, but made sure that we just 'chit chatted' sometimes too. Flirting on the phone was fun too. While it is important to talk about all the crucial stuff, lightening up is important too!

LAW

[Emily]

I'm going through it right now. Six months out from deployment, and we've had our first big fight.

I have to thank you for the post...it came at the time that I needed it. Even with it, this is still incredibly difficult, and I'm learning an entirely new respect for the spouses who have to say goodbye to the person they love as they head off to a warzone. TDYs to foreign countries we've done. A TDY to a warzone is new.

So long as we get through this first big bump, I know we'll be okay. But in the meantime, gosh it's hard.

[An ARNG Wife]

I love the internet. It has been nearly two years since you posted this information, and in the middle of this sleepless morning, I found it. Thank you.