Keeping Romance Alive

I was perusing the blogosphere the other day, and happened upon a new blog and she writes about love and romance. 

There are many moments in the beginning of a deployment that bring you to tears. The days leading up to the actual day they leave are often brutal. Then there are the times you see couples together and you long for the closeness again. But the moment I am talking about right now is one that stems from the love my husband has for me. The love that has prompted him to arrange to have two long stem red roses sent to me every Monday to mark off the weeks he is away. He made arrangements before he left and asked one of my friends to pick them and up and bring them to me. He then wrote out notes on post-its and gave them to my children to sporadically put on my vanity mirror when I'm sad to remind me of how much he missed me and loves me. The love that inspired him to record a video telling me of how he can not wait to come home to me. Now all of this may seem fine to some of you who have overly romantic husbands. My husband is romantic as well, when he's here. He has done some pretty extraordinary things in the past while he's been home, but he has never done anything in anticipation of a deployment before. This is our 4th deployment since 2001 and it has left me simply overwhelmed with those moments that make me cry, and miss the man that my husband has become........even more then I did before. God please keep my husband safe. Written by:  Life is Just a Bunch of Random Comments

I thought the post was inspirational.  It also allowed me a moment to think of all of the romantic gestures in the past 18 years. 

Romance is  different from person to person, and can translate differently from men to women.  Sometimes when we hear the word romance, images of candles, and flowers are conjured up.  But there are so many other moments in the day in which we remind one another of our love.  Some are simple, a touch or a look.  Some of my friends and I agree that one of the most romantic gestures can be helping a spouse with the mundanest of chores.

We would love to hear how you and your spouse, keep one another in mind and in thought.  How do you remind one another of your love?

Comments

[Chelly]

For my husband and I, romance is interesting. He can be romantic in just about every sense of the word from; bubble bath, candles, and soft music with chocolates, to hearing I had a bad day, stopping on his way home from work and picking up some roses, stuffed bear, and a favorite drink then sending me to a quiet place while he takes care of kids and house....

[Sarah]

I always consider it romantic when my husband acknowledges that I am a special kind of crazy...

Once in Germany we had spent all day on a train trip. I felt so dirty and grimy, and I moaned out loud that I just wished I had some way of washing my hands. My husband smiled and pulled a moist towelette out of his pocket. He had taken it when he used a pay toilet because he knew that there's nothing worse for his wife than dirty hands.

I don't need flowers or candy to know my husband loves me...all I need is a wet-wipe :)

[InTheAirForceAgain]

My husband knows the household chore I hate most is cleaning the bathrooms. The day before he deployed last week, when he should have been doing a million other things, he cleaned both bathrooms in our house. He also vacuumed the entire house and changed every light bulb outside! All of these I could easily do myself but now get some time off from doing. He also left a note on our bathroom door telling me how much he loved me.

[dual military wife]

My husband is definitely not a romantic. But the thing that he did for me is so awesome. He did something that he never does the week before he deployed. Since he was home pretty much most of the time (you know how it goes pre-deployment) and had more time off than normal, one day he actually picked up the house, did the dishes, and did the laundry. All of which he seldomly. When I came home from work, it was just the sweetest thing he could ever do. That's what he does from time to time to tell me he loves me. Maybe not so romantic, but enough for me. :)