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A Bazaar Time!

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One of the more familiar, annual rites of passage in the European Theater was being a part of and of course ATTENDING the Spouse Clubs Annual Christmas Bazaars. Most USAF installations had a bazaar of some size that would make many state-side county fairs blush with envy.  Truly, the planning for the annual Bazaar continued throughout the year, beginning at the conclusion of the most recent event.  Owning the aircraft maintenance hangars in which the bazaars were held, always nudged me into being more involved with the Spouses Club on this venture than most others … let’s call it self preservation. Ah yes, the Bazaars to end all Bazaars -- Ramstein AB Germany. The things we brought home and the riches we share in our home now – like Andi’s post on Buried Treasures, each one has a story and will snap back your mind years in time, remembering when we bought each of the treasures. Alas, after a few years overseas, The Boss and I returned to CONUS, to find out that some things were a wee bit different.

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Holiday Open Thread

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For milspouses with loved ones deployed, the Holiday season can be tough. Last Christmas, my husband was deployed. In addition to the small Christmas tree and care package that I sent, I took all sorts of photos of the Christmas tree in our home, the animals laying under the tree, the decorations, etc. and created a humorous and cheerful Power Point presentation using the photos. I saved the presentation as a .PDF file and emailed it to my husband on Christmas Day. I was able to bring my husband home, for a brief few moments, in the virtual sense. 

For those of you who are in the same position this year, how did you send some Holiday cheer to your deployed spouse? How did you make the best of the separation?

Military life in a new light

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I never realized how much I miss living on/near a military installation until today.  I am visting DH's family at Ft. Bragg, NC (they live off post) right now.  DH and I went to get new ID cards today - he was recently promoted and since we don't live near a military installation, we took the opportunity to get new ID cards (I have to admit I like the picture on my old ID card MUCH better than my new one!).

We have lived "away from the military" for six months now.  DH is still active duty, but our duty assignment is at a university.  Although the people in the town we live in are VERY supportive of our military, it's just not the same as living on/near a military post.

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Buried Treasures

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When my husband was on his first deployment to the Middle East, he purchased some precious stones and brought them home to me. They were beautiful. I put the stones in a little cloth pouch and placed them inside my jewelry box. Within two weeks of my husband's return, we were in full PCS mode. Each time we PCS, I take what valuable jewelry I own with me, rather than have it packed and moved with the rest of the household goods.

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Oh Starry Night

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The air was still, the night was chilly, and the sky was as black as … well, night. That is, it was black EXCEPT for a few million stars and one, very large moon. The moon was huge, yellow, pock-marked, and seemed to extend almost horizon to horizon. The calendar said it was just past the winter solstice, the phase of the moon was full, and I’d just pulled-up my folding metal chair at my wooden wire spool that served as a table outside my "hooch" on J street … tent number J124, my prime residence on trip number two and for this trip, day number 147.  I had just walked Tent City’s streets to make sure, for my own conscious, that all was well. It was. All was well. Now, I had a chance to sit down and pull out a treasured cigar. I began to think about where I was living, next to a deep oasis, along a historic trail the Bedouin had used for thousands of years … a trail between the Arabian Sea with its myrrh and frankincense, and a place called Bethlehem. That night and to this day, each Christmas night I find my way outside, late in the evening to look at the sky.  I search for the stars and the moon that a fellow US Warrior may have just looked at and may have wished upon:  Unbelieveably, a wish for all of us at Home,  a wish for safety and happiness to those we love.  To those still there, everywhere in harms' way, I say my prayers ... for ... I ... remember …

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Did you know?

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This week's Military Report includes:

360 Degrees of Financial Literacy
Video E-mail Launches for Deployed Soldiers
In-State Tuition Rates
Cost of Living Allowance Goes Up
DoD Expands Mental Health Screening
DoD Launches Financial Education Program
Free Camping Offered to Servicemembers
Gifts to the Homefront Soar
Happy Birthday, National Guard!
High School Art Competition Seeks Entries
Military Housing Rates Boosted 3.5 Percent
National Guard Museum Opens New Exhibit
New Navy Uniforms Coming in 2008
New Passport Requirements Jan. 2007
TRICARE Maternity Care
Make a Difference: Become a Teacher

Read the entire Military Report here.

Livin' the Military Vacation

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Last year my brother, an Army officer, told me of his intentions to use some leave around Christmas to travel with my sister-in-law rather than going to visit family.  His reasoning was that their leave had always been used to go home and visit rather than traveling.

My response was, "Well, I suppose that depends on how you view assignments and where 'home' is."

What I meant by this was that the leave = going home phenomenon is one I see in most of the military people I know, including our family.  And although I can't speak for anyone else, I'm okay with this.  You see, I view our different stationings and daily life as a "vacation".  There are times I feel like a Jet-setter, particularly when we PCS more than once every two years.  We don't just move somewhere and spend all our time on base when we get there - we see and experience where we land.

And so, without further ado, I thought you might like some evidence of Air Force Family experiencing our latest duty station; pictures and monologue after the jump.

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Remember

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When your spouse is gone, your entire life is in the shadow of deployment.  You feel the weight of his/her absence at every holiday, birthday, and anniversary.  And then the moment your spouse gets home, that weight is lifted and it's back to business as usual.

It's hard to keep in mind that a battalion of different spouses replaced yours.

Those of us who are lucky enough to have our spouses home this holiday season, we should take a moment to remember that there are thousands of other spouses who aren't home with their families.  Please remember them today, the brave men and women who serve our country, many of whom are too young to even rent a car...

What Do You Mean You 'Can't'?

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Is it just me or does anyone else find it fascinating how our spouses can do all kinds of technical, important or even dangerous work and yet not be willing/able to do some very elementary duties...especially around the holidays?

Case in point:  Hubs is "scared" to go to Toys 'R Us....mmmm-kay.

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Happy Trails

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With Christmas and the New Year just around the corner, I'm sure many of you are planning on doing some traveling.  For some of you, that may entail just a few hours by car or plane.  However, for the majority of you there's probably a major road trip involved.

The kids and I took off on our two day road trip Saturday morning.  While planning our trip and discussing it with friends and my FRG Leader, I often heard, "How long of a drive is it?" or "Just you and the four kids?!" or "Have you checked the weather?" and my standard responses were "It's a two day drive.  We'll be just fine. I do this all the time." and  "The kids are really seasoned travelers." and "I've been watching the weather for the last week." 

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Preparing for Deployment Update

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A few resource updates have been added to my previous posting, Preparing for Deployment

I will continue to keep the post updated as new items come out, so that we can all be well prepared for each new deployment and be aware of new resources.

**UPDATES**

Video E-mail Helps Deployed Soldiers and Families
Servicemembers Civil Relief Act
GreenCare for Troops
TRICARE Survivor Benefits
Survivor's Guide Updated
New Emotional Cycles of Deployment

Ok Folks, move on the shows over. You don't need to go home but you can't stay here. Come back tommorow for the noon showing, and try the veal.

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The Commissary...

There is really nothing worse than a screaming and crying child.

OK, there are worse things than a screaming and crying child, a lot of things. But a screaming and crying child immediately puts all adults on alert. It pains us to see a child that is in misery...

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And the News is So Good

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What was the first lesson you learned as a military spouse?

Mine was "Hurry up and wait."  Hurry up and get to your next duty station.  Wait for housing.  Hurry up and get hubby's gear together for a last minute TDY or deployment.  Wait for the infinity + 1 changes in orders.  Hurry up and write your packet.  Wait while the board sits into an overtime that would make the Guinness people run for their files in an orgy of excitement about a new record.

But then we got the news - hubby made his promotion!  And with a line number that is more than respectable.  And I was so excited I surprised him with a Chocolate Stampede dessert at dinner.

Then I got worried.  A new rank?  Does this mean that now (cue Wicked Witch of the West laughter) I have to be a *gasp* grown up?

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From the Mailbag

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A milspouse writes of trouble she's having with her civilian friend.

I am a Deployed Reservist’s spouse and I have not seen any comments on friendships with non-military girlfriends. My BF is great but just can’t get how to support me during my DH’s absence. It's almost like she has her old friend back and wants to do the single girl thing with me again because she is single, which is not what I want right now. I have a FT job, a very active 3 year-old, a house, and a 95lb dog to take care of. Sometimes her comments just don’t sound so sincere. Yes, I have the life and family she has always wanted, but our friendship is suffering because she just doesn’t get it. How do other milspouses handle their civilian friends and comments?

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NMFA Government and You E-News - December 19, 2006

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Topics in this Week's News Include:

1. New DoD Policy Focuses on Mental Health and Deployment

2. 2007 Housing Rates Posted

3. AMVETS Report Highlights Needs of Returning Service Members

4. Adaptive Sports Programs Aid Injured Service Members

5. AKO Offers Video E-mails to Deployed Soldiers and Families

6. Close Call on Physician Reimbursement Rates

7. NMFA Attends America Supports You Conference

8. What’s Important to You?

9. Merry Christmas, Happy Holidays, and Happy New Year!

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For the Want of a Sock

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When hubby came home from Basic Training he followed the advice of one of the people in his training barracks, "Tie a sock around your duffel's handle so that you know which one is yours at the airport."

Hubby thought that was brilliant advice, and used one of his sport socks.  Upon pick-up at the airport, he gleefully reported his new "trick" and waited impatiently to demonstrate how much easier such an action made finding your luggage at the carousel...  until he saw that each and every duffel coming down the belt was sporting a regulation white sport sock on the handle.

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My Life as a Public Service Announcement

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I had to travel to MN with my oldest son last week.  On the plane coming back, I sat down next to a young man who looked haggard and frayed!  He was on his cell phone and I couldn't help listening to the conversation.  Let's face it, cell phone conversations from the next seat in the plane are impossible NOT to listen in on!  His conversation was obviously with a moving company as he was setting up a time for the initial assessment.

Well.....couldn't pass that up!  So, I asked him the obvious conversation opener, "So, you're moving?  How exciting!"  Apparently he didn't think so.  He looked at me as if I had just grown 10 heads. "Exciting?  Not hardly.  I've never moved before and I'm at the end of my rope!!"  Ahhhh, a soul in need of some good old fashioned military spouse education!

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Did you know?

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This week's Military Report includes:

Air Force Launches New Television Program
Blue Angels Announce 2007 Show Schedule
Free Phone Cards Offered During the Holidays
GreenCare for Troops
New Features Available on myPay
New Guide on Adoption Available
New Pay, Personnel System Coming for Troops
Santa Tracker Seeks Volunteers
Tax Statements Schedule Announced
Thrift Savings Plan Provides Benefits
Thunderbirds Release 2007 Show Schedule
Tunes 4 the Troops
Walter Reed Stops Anonymous Gifts
Website Fills Christmas Wish List

Read the entire Military Report here.

Childrearing Resources for During Deployment

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One reader is interested in advice for dealing with the issues that stem from having a pre-schooler during a deployment

My child is an infant, so I do not have any personal experiences to offer those who are experiencing toddler or pre-schooler meltdown, an angry and hurt child, or a depressed pre-teen during a deployment.  However, I have gathered resources before for members of our FRG. I thought I could possibly offer my research skills and share these resources.  Please add your favorite resources and stories in the comments, and I will update the post with new resources.

I am sure more veteran parents (bloggers and commenters, both) will chime in soon with stories that will have tips, advice, and support!

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All I want for Christmas...

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The question was posted over at the Castle...

..."Whattaya Want for Christmas?"

So, I answered. I was in a somewhat melancholy mood and trying my best to avoid throwing myself a pity party.

I would like a better answer to my daughter's comment that she misses her daddy besides "me too, baby. Me too." *sigh* A winning lottery ticket would be nice. I'm not greedy - 5 zeros would be acceptable. A fast forward button on life? That would be kind of nice. Just to get us to July-ish. I'd like to not be a single parent for a little while. I'd like to sleep the sleep that you sleep when you're not the ONLY adult in the house, responsible for the health, welfare, and spiritual guidance of 2 children who depend on you wholeheartedly. I'd like to have someone to sit with on the couch at the end of the day and just BE with. I'd like to have someone here to help me put up Christmas decorations. Honestly, though, I do not want for much. My family is safe (relatively speaking) and healthy (well, physically at least!). We have a good church family here and good friends throughout the world that love us and pray for us like we love them and pray for them. We have a roof over our heads, food on the table, and the freedom to do as we please. That pretty much covers it. Though snow would be nice ;~) Gosh, I miss snow!!! Mele Kalikimaka!

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December Contest

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We're no longer accepting submissions for the December "What's Your Story" contest. We received over 150 entries this month. It's going to be very difficult to select a winner! Thanks for all of the great entries. We'll announce the winner, and read the winning entry, on January 2.

A Conversation With Kristin Henderson

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On Tuesday evening, four of the SpouseBUZZ authors sat down for a conversation with author and journalist, Kristin Henderson. Kristin is the author of While They're at War: The True Story of American Families on the Homefront. Kristin's book focuses on life during a wartime deployment from the perspective of the spouse left behind. Kristin has a unique vantage point, she too is a milspouse, her husband is a Navy Chaplain and has deployed to both Afghanistan and Iraq.

The SpouseBUZZ authors who read While They're at War agreed that this book was difficult to put down. One of the strengths of this book is the wide variety of milspouses who are featured. Kristin speaks with Vietnam-era spouses, our generation of spouses, Gold Star spouses and male spouses. There's a lot of information in this book. While They're at War is more than a collection of milspouse stories, it's also a history lesson. How were modern-day support groups born? How did casualty notification procedures evolve? How did the programs that milspouses currently enjoy come to be? We learned the answers to these questions, and more, from reading Kristin's book.

We'd like to thank Kristin for an interesting and candid conversation about While They're at War. For more information on Kristin and her work, you can visit her website. You can also purchase the book from Kristin's website.

One note: Kristin was kind enough to be our guinea pig. Our interview with Kristin was our very first podcast. The podcasting equipment was acting up and the issues were beyond my control. I'm technically challenged! During the interview, the volume varies in a couple of places through no fault of my own because I'm technically challenged. Here's hoping practice makes perfect..... 

If you have a subscription to iTunes, simply click the blue button below to retrieve the podcast.

Open iTunes and the podcast will automatically upload. If you'd like to subscribe to iTunes, it's free and easy. Use this link.

If you're not interested in subscribing to iTunes, click this link. Save the file to your desktop, right click on the file and "open with" whatever program you'd like to use. You can use Windows Media Player to listen, as one example.

Open Thread

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We're currently working on some upgrades to SpouseBUZZ. These upgrades will include adding a handful of new authors, one of them is a Coast Guard spouse. With that addition, we'll have all branches of the service represented, which was our original goal. That's just one of the changes that will take place early next year. We're also going to be adding more audio and video features, some of that will happen before next year.

We say it all the time, but it's true. SpouseBUZZ belongs to you, and it exists because of you. The authors bring up topics, and you are always great at expanding on those topics in the comment threads, but let's switch roles for a bit. What do you want to discuss? Are there topics we haven't touched on that you would like to see us write about?

Suggestions? Comments? Feedback?

Let us know what we can do to serve you better.

Scenes from a Chapel

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On Sunday I took my children to CCD (when I was growing up it was Catechism, then for my eldest daughter it was called PRE - but in reality it is what is commonly known as "Sunday School").  The room they use (on our local army base) is the same room the Protestant children use for their Sunday School classes, the same room where Alcoholics Anonymous meets, next door to the room the Wiccans use twice a week for their meetings, and three doors down from the room where the Sikh Guru Granth Sahib rests under a canopy inside a closet and is taken out for meetings.

After CCD, we walked past the Muslim worship area, with it's framed poster of Mecca on the correct wall, it's rugs artfully arranged on the floor, and a beautifully done portrait of the profession of faith.  Right next door to that we passed the Jewish worship area, with it's mezuzah on the door and a door connecting it to the special kitchen with it's dishes and area set up to prepare kosher food.

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2007 Basic Allowance for Housing (BAH)

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FYI: The 2007 BAH rates are now available. Hope this is helpful for some of you!

From the Mailbag

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A milspouse with two Autistic children sends this information:

Today I found a mention that Tricare is visiting their ECHO policy as it applies to Autism...  this is a HUGE deal and we need to spread the word that they are looking for input from families affected personally.

Here is the page

As a mother of two little guys with Autism this is near and dear to me.

If you have Autistic children, please take the time to offer your input. TRICARE will accept comments/suggestions through January 31. If you have any questions about this topic, leave them in the comment section. The spouse who sent the email is willing to lend her expertise with Autism to anyone who may have questions.

Care Package Ideas

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Like many of you, I have sent a whole lot of care packages out.  While DH was deployed, I became very familiar with the local post office.

I thought you might like to see some of the ideas and tips I have for creating your own care packages to your soldier(s) and I am hoping you will share some of your own.

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If I Wasn't a Milspouse...

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...I would have missed out on a very special lifestyle which has taken me all over the country and enabled me to meet fascinating people who I otherwise wouldn't have known. I'm a better, richer person for having married the military.

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Lists, Lists, and More Lists

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Honey Do list, Things I Need to Learn list, Cleaning list, Packing list, and Christmas Gift list.  Whew!  Too many lists to manage right now.  As of right now, the only list I've actually written down is the gift list.  The others are currently committed to memory only.  That could be a problem...

My Honey Do list was short to begin with and after the weekend, is even shorter.  JD is leaving in mere days and, while I hated to do it, I had to ask him to do a couple of things for me.  We moved in two months ago and our oldest, MD, still didn't have her wall pegs hung in her closet and the shower curtain rod in the kids' bathroom was falling out of the wall.  Truly an accident waiting to happen.  Both are tasks I could've completed myself, but having them done right (and well) was my goal.  There's actually still one item on the list and I doubt it will get done in the next couple of days.  Afterall, we have bigger things to worry about right now.

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NMFA Government and You E-News - December 12, 2006

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1. What’s Important to You?

2. Secretary of Defense Rumsfeld to Step Down December 18

3. Congress Passes Critical Veterans Bill

4. DFAS Adds Enhancements to myPay Site

5. FDIC Address Pay Day Lending Alternatives for Military Families

6. DoD Updates Survivor Guide

7. Sesame Workshop Special Talks About When Parents are Deployed

8. Gift Giving for Overseas Troops

9. Walter Reed Stops Accepting “Any Wounded Soldier” Gifts

10. VA Announces Insurance Dividends

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wanted: Stiff upper lip

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Contrary to what some of you may think, I am not really a wussy, touchy, feely, tears coming out of my face kind of gal.  It has never been the way I do things.  Although, it seems as though I am using SpouseBuzz, as some sort of emotional forum most of the time. 

I have become a cliche.

However...

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When Uniforms Go Too Far

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This could be a post about how the Service Dress the Air Force is adopting look like something designed by the staff of Emperor Palpatine for the pilots of his TIE Fighters to wear on Victory Parade Day.

But it's not.

It could also be a post about now we narrowly avoided having to buy hubby BDUs that were patterned blue and gray, making the wearer resemble a Battle Smurf (or, if a beret is added to the mix, making the wearer look French). 

But it's not.

Because this is a post about how having a job with uniform requirements since 1993 has affected my husband.

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Volleyball, anyone?

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Stress is one of those things that we all experience... like it or not!  No matter what is going on in our lives, at some point in time we are hit with stress.  Sometimes it's just a little and we manage just fine.  Other times it is so overwhelming we feel like we are caught in a revolving door (at least that's how I have felt in the past).

I have a quick and funny story to share about how my mother-in-law (MIL) and I dealt with stress one night after a looooong day at Walter Reed (when my DH was there after being wounded last year).

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A Double-Edged Sword

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RedLegMeg said something in a recent post that grabbed my attention.

The media is now referring to what's going on in and around Baghdad as civil war.  I remember JD comparing it to the Wild West back then and him being more than happy to get out of there when he did.  Somehow, the Wild West sounds more palpable than a civil war.  The insurgents are now experts at planting IED's and soldiers are being injured or killed by them nearly everyday. 

Though RedLegMeg's post wasn't about the media, her mention of the media reminded me of the effect that media coverage can have, and often does have, on those of us on the homefront. 

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NMFA Government and You E-News - December 5, 2006

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Topics in this Week’s News Include:

1. In Memoriam: Sydney Tally Hickey

2. New Guide on Adoption Services for Military Families Released

3. TRICARE Invites Family Input on Services for Autistic Children

4. DoD Hosts Conference on Education for Military-Connected Communities

5. Sharing the Spirit of the Season with Service Members and Their Families

6. “Let’s Say Thanks” Sends Postcards for Service Members from America’s Children

7. Personal Products Needed for Wounded Service Members at Walter Reed

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A Request for Interviews

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In September, Andrea Downing Peck asked SpouseBUZZ readers to contact her about a story she was working on regarding milspouses and careers. She informs me that you responded in great numbers.

Andrea is currently working on a story about how to use military moves to get organized. Andrea is interested in interviewing SpouseBUZZ readers for her story, which will be featured in Military Spouse Magazine next spring.

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Homelandsick

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AirForceWife's latest post made me chuckle because it was the exact opposite of my experience.  When I got married, I had just finished living in France and Sweden.  My husband and I did everything possible to stay in the US for our first tour.  He called me three days before our wedding with news I needed to sit down for: we were heading to Germany.

Once there, it turned out to work out for the best.  I'm glad our first duty station was the overseas one, and we really liked our post and the region of Germany.  But having already lived in Europe twice, I had no romantic notions of how wonderful it was going to be.  No matter what fun things we were able to do there, I always had a longing to just go home.

I have distant relatives in France who are really nice people.  On one visit to see them, they were making this huge deal about a new cheese they had found in England.  They went on and on about this cheese, "something called cheddar."  Hilarious.  So on my second trip to see them, I was going to take them a boatload of cheddar.

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December 7th , 1941

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Today is a day that we look back and remember Pearl Harbor, and those who died on that day, and the survivors.

Please go here to see a newsreel of that day.

Quick Links

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Holiday shopping is underway, probably a good time to highlight an old post again.

Via reader Chrys, package a hug and then send it to your service member.

Stars for Heroes (that means you). Hat tip: Jill Army.

Meez emailed to inform me that they now feature a military line of clothing. Of course, I had to test it out. Took me an hour to build mine last night. I know many of you are familiar with the Meez images, but I've never built one before.

Meet me in Meez:

p.s. In the Meez world, we're all the same size, can eat as much as we want, never have to exercise and we never gain a pound. I like the Meez world....

Different Perceptions? Rev (1)

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A couple of days ago, I asked, "IF you think there's a starting point, re: changing the world's perspective of the male milspouse, what would the first thing be?"  The remarks (especially the email traffic) fell into what I'd consider four camps from the two genders.  (F-#1) "what's your problem?  Get on w/life."  (F-#2)  "we've always welcomed men into every gathering and at every opportunity -- they just aren't interested."  (M-#1) "I really want a professional life as rewarding as my female milspouse but can't seem to get it jump-started."  And lastly, (M-#2) "Toad, what's broken?"

Although I could spend great amounts of debating brain cells on F-#1 & #2, it's the latter two I'd like to check-out a bit more.  Interested in coming along?

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Keeping Momma Happy - the Assignment Edition

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So, six days back and hubby is catching up on many things that had to wait while he was gone.  Of course, chief among those things is something rather unmentionable in polite company,  but frequently alluded to. 

But a close second in importance is hubby's new assignment.  It's overdue.  And he's looking hard to find the one that is open, fits career opportunities and track, and keeps his wife happy.

Yes, that's right.  Keeping the wife happy.  Very important, although it definitely has to be balanced with the other considerations.  So what exactly is it that keeps this wife happy in the assignment process?  After all, I am the weirdo who loves to PCS - it's like getting a paid vacation for two or three years.

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Share The Silver Lining

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I have thought several times that nothing could have prepared me for deployment.  It's too big, too vast and too hard to wrap a mind around...kind of like marriage or childbirth. 

Once I was on the been-there-done-that side of it, however, I realized something:  Deployment prepared me for a lot of things.

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Children's holiday support

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I had never heard of NMFA's Operation Purple before this morning.  It's sole purpose is to take care of the kids left behind when a parent is deployed.  This year they are asking people to write letters of support to the children who are dealing with a parent that is deployed this holiday season. 

It is easy to forget that so many children are touched and affected by this war.  We are a strong bunch, we military spouses, and we take on a tremendous amount of hardship and responsibility.  But, hats off to the little ones!

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U.S. Army Freedom Team Salute

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Last night, I received a large package in the mail from the U.S. Army. Very unusual. Normally, such a package would be addressed to my husband, so I was left wondering if there was a mistake on the address label.

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Difference in perceptions?

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Howdy SpouseBUZZ Blogosphere (and all of you other folks, too!)  I realize it's been a bit; my apologies -- life called.  Fortunately the batteries have died on all the phones and I've a moment to say "Hey!"

So, what's the difference between me, ... and you? (other than my use of poor grammar)  No, not fair looking at the author of the post.  But if you did, you could safely construe I'm a he-male milspouse (not to be confused w/ a he-man, by ANY stretch of THAT imagination), and I have a question about how we think we're different than you that are fe-male milspouses?

Some of us work, some don't.  Some raise kids, some have none.  Some have advanced education, others are square in the middle of self-development right now.  All of us are supportive and proud of our US Warriors.  And would like them home each and every night ... but that isn't always possible.

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What happened to November?

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I haven't posted in almost a month.  The month of November slipped by without letting me know it was here.  Between writing papers, studying for finals, and doing all the other "mother and milspouse stuff" I do every day, I feel like I have been completely out of touch.  Now that finals are over and my papers are all written and turned in, I feel compelled to post and get "back in touch" with SpouseBUZZ.  The unfortuante thing is... all the great post ideas I had (when I was not able to post) got lonely and left my brain.  I'm still trying to get caught up on other SB posts and comments so I can re-energize my mind in a new direction (as far away from school as possible... at least until January)!

Have you ever felt this way?  Like a chunk of your life flew past you without stopping to pick you up on the way?  I know a month isn't a lot of time in the "big picture," but I guess I am reminding myself and all of you (through writing this post) to remember to take time out for yourself every now and then.  I have a hard time doing that (obviously), but we all deserve time to do what WE want, instead of what others want or need us to do.

Needing My Stuff

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What happens when they pack you out for a PCS is that invariably you will start to have desires for belongings you haven't looked at in years.  The minute your stuff goes in boxes, you'll find yourself saying something like, "Honey, remember that Korean family we met five years ago?  No?  Well, when we get home I'll show you a picture.  Oh wait.  Nevermind."  All of a sudden you'll have indescribable urges to look up the Whiskey Rebellion in your old history textbook, a book you haven't touched in ten years.  It never fails, every PCS.

I miss my stuff already.

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